dumpedinVA
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My husband left me after 15 years. I have no family locally and not many friends. My husband was my world and everything I did was with him in mind. He is not even living in the same state now. I am the one that is left to start the property settlment agreement but I have no idea what I want when it comes to the house. The only solid thing I have in my life right now is my job. I don't feel I can leave the area because of that. My parents and siblings live in an economically depressed area so going there would be a very difficult move. I have been told don't make that decision right now, just stay there til I can get a handle on things. Sounds like good advice but I am so alone. There is nothing for me to come home to after work. There are lots of things for me to do being I am the only one taking care of the house now but I feel so alone here. Not to mention there are no distractions and all I can think about is the mess I am now in and never thought this would be what I have to face in life. I don't know what to expect next and i am scared. How can I keep from thinking about this all the time? What can fill the loneliness?
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matilda
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I don't know all of your circumstances, but maybe getting a roommate or two will help your out. I would stash the cash somewhere in case you end up needing it to pay legal fees or survive. The roommates can help around the house and keep you from being so lonely. Not sure if this will help, but maybe. If you don't have a job find one, and start making friends. You could s
also try volunteering to help with the depression a little. I hope things get better for you soon.
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aloneandscared
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I can relate. I just found out my husband of 11yrs found a new women. I thought he was the love of my life, we just understood each other in a way I never had with anyone else. To make matters worse, I have no family. I moved out of state to be with him and gave up my house and friends. My dog, who was always there for me died this week and now I lost my husband. I have no one and not sure what way to turn. I'm stuck in a new state and don't know anybody and have no support. I've been divorced before. I married my highschool sweetheart, but we grew apart. This is much different and the pain I'm feeling is just unbearable!!
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dumpedinVA
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I have never been an advocate of using prescription drugs for depression but I have to say I could not have gotten this far had I not went to the doctor for help. I do feel better even though none of my problems are solved and there appears to be no hope for the husband's return. I feel good enough to make it through the day and be able to go to work. I am not dancing on the ceiling but I can function at work. I had to leave early three days and could not continue to do that. I feel like I can actually think and have been eating better. I lost 20 pounds over this! Sleeping better too. Still lost, scared and alone but at least I can work. It's a start. Don't know where to go from here but I will not let this man destroy me. It is a shame one person can make another feel so low. I do not want to rely on prescription drugs forever but i learned there is no shame in needing it to get through a very difficult situation. I am seeing a counselor now which is not going to solve my problems either. But it seems this is helping in a small way. At least enough so I won't loose my job and I can think. I don't know what I am in for with the D word but hopefully I can face it and deal with it better.
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