Buckeye
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Heck, as an adult, I would chose sports or ANYTHING rather than visiting you.
You want your child to do WHAT YOU WANT, you are not interested IN HER FRIENDS, you will not even try to be interested IN THE THINGS SHE LIKES. She is 14, while not an adult, she is trying her wings - in 4 years, she will be considered an adult and believe me, she WILL NOT EVER COME TO SEE YOU OR TALK TO YOU, if you don't change.
You need to get some counseling and maybe joint counseling with your child. You can't continue to blame her mother for everything that you don't like. As a matter of fact, this is the type of behavior that will get your visitation reduced because it is considered PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). You should NEVER say anything bad about the mother - the more you do, the more you will force your child to protect her and she will HATE you.
If you are unwilling to look at your behavior as a major part of this problem, this situation is never going to change. You need to start over and get rid of your judgmental attitude.
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ljnsy
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Reged: 03/08/06
Posts: 857
Loc: NH
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<<<You can't be serious. She is choosing sports over seeing her dad. Her mom put her up to this and then she just took off with it. Remember, these are kids she is playing with that I do not know!!>>>
Ah,some kids actually LIKE sports. What is wrong with your daughter playing sports if she enjoys it? Don't you think it's better than her going out drinking and doing drugs?
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Buckeye
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Have you gone to any of your daughter's games or supported her sports in any way?
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JennyLynn
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I haven't responded b/c it's like talking to a brick wall. I can not stand people with this type of attitude.
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Buckeye
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I know exactly what you mean.
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Tabitha
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Reged: 06/02/05
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Shawn, You seem to have some serious self-searching to do. What you are doing is pushing your daughters away with your behaviors. That is not what Jesus did. He DREW people to him with his kindness, wisdom, forgiveness and sacrifice. If you want a relationship with your daughters, you need to search yourself and stop blaming anyone/everyone else for your problems.
The fruit of the Spirit are love; joy; peace; patience; kindness; goodness; faithfulness; gentleness; and self-control. Practicing those qualities will be the only way to draw your daughters to you. And remember Shawn, Christians aren't perfect - just forgiven.
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Buckeye
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And actually relating to them on their level. I'm sure Jesus would have been playing basketball with the people if that was what it would have taken to relate to them.
And, he didn't preach at them - he preached to them. Big difference in how the message is received.
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Lucy44
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Reged: 07/11/05
Posts: 874
Loc: Rochester, MN
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This poster smells like a troll or a freak.
Either way, he will not find his answers here.
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Experience is a wonderful thing.
It enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.
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Maury
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Loc: This Asylum --->
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Wow ---you have a great deal to learn about tolerance. Arguing to a court that the other parent is not a proper parent because she allows the children to hang around with non-Christans, listen to rap music and play sports will more than likely hurt your legal chances than help them. Regardless of your beliefs, it is not mainstream America and not something a court will force on one parent becuase it fits the other parent's belief system.
The fact that mom drinks will have little impact unless you can show that it somehow endangers the children.
If you do not have a lawyer, you should get one. You will need someone to filter your arguments so that they can be presented in an effective way. The way you are presenting them will likely have the opposite effect of the one intended.
Another option may be to shave your head, buy some sneakers, don a purple blanket and wait to catch the UFO that is hiding behind the comet that passes.
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Buckeye
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He has a Christian attorney and has tried now for three years to get custody and believe it or not - nothing is working. Isn't that a shame??? LMAO!!!
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