imsoconfused
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Hi all~ I'm very seriously thinking about divorcing my husband of 20 yrs. but my husband has lived here most of his life and knows everyone. I need to find a good attorney but I can't ask anyone around here. How do I find a good attorney in SE Michigan? Thank you.
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almostheaven
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You don't have to use SE MI. You can go anywhere in MI, or even just across state lines and find an attorney licensed to practice in MI.
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almostheaven
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Why are you thinking of divorce BTW? Make sure you have extremely good reasoning and that nothing can be worked out, know that even a marital counselor can't help you, before tossing out 20 years. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. So unless the reasons are sound and all efforts exhausted, you may be jumping out of the frying pan into the fire.
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imsoconfused
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Thanks for your advice, but I would like to find an attorney that isn't too far away. I'm not employed at this time and will try to be smart on funds. If I had to drive a little farther for a great women's lawyer who was affordable, I would do it. I just don't know where to start to find a good lawyer. I do know lawyers, but my husband knows them, too. I was just wondering how someone goes about finding a good women's lawyer. Is there a site that rates them or gives stats on them, such as in wins/loses (ha ha)?
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imsoconfused
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Thanks for responding to my post. We have tried to go to counseling twice. Each time he quit after 1-2 sessions and said it wasn't working. ( I guess they weren't able to change me fast enough.I guess I'm the only one that needs to change according to him. Wow, it must be nice to be perfect!)So I have been going myself and I have learned (sadly) that my husband has controlled me and I sure didn't want to believe it. I have lived in stress, turmoil, and conflict for most of those years. I had given up EVERYTHING to help him in his business and has not appreciated ANYTHING I have done for him. I could go into a real story here, but it's too lengthy. He will do anything to keep his assets because he is very concerned how he will look, not that I deserve it after 20 years. So I know he will give me a very hard time. (He said that I had a place to live for 20 years! I should be so grateful.) So I guess raising 2 wonderful kids, giving up my professional career, helping him run two businesses and taking care of his parents entitles me to a place to live for the last 20 years. He has to be kidding. So after much thought,it may be the only relief I'll get. He won't go to counseling; he won't discuss anything with me. Believe me, this was not an easy decision. I hope I answered your question. I always appreciate input.
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sahd
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Your case is quite similar to what I am going through right now. I am working with a woman lawyer, but it is too early to rate her. Drop me an email at sahdsahd@gmail.com and we can exchange tips.
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