ma1950
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Reged: 08/14/06
Posts: 1
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I want to wake up tomorrow and smile. I want to find a few seconds in my day that I am not focused on how angry and bitter I feel. 22 years of my whole life being all about him and now at the age of 56, he has a new 31 year old. I don"t feel like I will ever get over it. :(
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Curmudgeon
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 2002
Loc: MO Ozarks
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But you will, you know. Tomorrow wake up and smile because you're no longer tied to someone who's so shallow. He's a cliche and you're better off without him.
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What me worry. I'm retired!
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NancyD
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 06/03/05
Posts: 2105
Loc: New York
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Men who couple up with a partner who is young enough to be their own child will soon find out how strange and unfufilling a relationship it can be.
Either it will come when she dumps him, or it will come when he can't relate to some of her friends, goals, and cultural references.
Heck, he's likely to make a reference to Howdy Doody that she just goes "Huh?" at.
I have a long-time divorced friend who has had several younger boyfriends...much younger. She says they are diversions between the more long-term, closer to her own age guys. She knows that they are not the kind of relationships that will last, but she enjoys them for what they are until they peter out.
Unfortunately, many people in their middle age crisises see these kind of relationships as their last chance at a real physical fling. They throw in the true love part because they feel better about discarding their spouse and family if it has the earmarks of something that was MEANT TO BE.
Bleeh!
ma1950, I'm sorry for your pain. Vent, and know that there are plenty of people here who can relate to you.
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Annie7676
old hand
Reged: 06/05/05
Posts: 862
Loc: NY
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Ma1950: Trust us you will get over it, eventually. I am so sorry that you are going through this. This place is a good place to come, everyone will reach out and help you. Getting through the ending of a long term marriage is very painful but with help, faith and a sense of humor, and hopefully you will find it, you can get through this. There are things that can help, counseling, self help books, a divorce care series program at a local church, friends, family, whatever works for you. Time is also a good healer. My X left after almost 30 yrs of marriage and coming here and getting all the support helped and I know it will help you. Recovery is what its all about, coming out of this and getting the strength to overcome this painful experience. Hugs to you. And I hope you can find some peace by coming here. step by step, day by day.
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CaymanCanuck
enthusiast
Reged: 08/11/06
Posts: 242
Loc: Ontario, Canada
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I'm very sorry that you ended up here. I, as many other people here, are in the same position. Men and women alike.
I've only been participating on this board for a matter of days but it already has helped. The women and men here are great.
You are not alone and lean as much as you need to. There are very strong people here.
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evaluna
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Reged: 08/18/06
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Hi, Iam new in this forum, but not new to the pain that a divorce can create.
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Rann
journeyman
Reged: 06/08/06
Posts: 72
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Sorry to hear you're going through what so many of us have gone through.
You've definitely come to a good place. I've been coming here for the past several months and received so much advice and support.
Hang in there
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Lindysusu
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Reged: 08/18/06
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Know what you mean...mind was a 25 year marriage and I got dumped for not only a younger "friend" but one that took him to China! I'm left with getting the divorce, sorting out the household things, memories, pictures and still paying the bills for him...the hurt is almost more than I can bare sometimes and just when I think it can't get worse I find out my cancer is back. What's the use?
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