granny21
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What do you all think about a spouse spending $1000.00 in 12 months on a hobby just for themselves.
Do you thnk it is "ethical" for a spouse to spend large sums of money ($200.00 or more) on their hobby without telling the other spouse about it first?
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Buckeye
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Just what is this hobby?
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Miranda
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I really don't consider 1,000 a year to be super expensive...that is less than 100 dollars a month. So then it goes to what is the hobby? If he spends 1000 collecting beads then that would be a bit much, bowling no that would be cheap.
My H rides motorcycles and I consider that an expensive hobby.
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granny21
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The problem is not really the hobby or the amount of money...I guess that leaves the second question. How much is too much to spend on one's personal hobby without joint approval?
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Buckeye
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My hubbys saves stamps. It has gone from just "used US" stamps, to new US stamps to UN Stamps, Canada stamps, special issue stamps (like the Royal Wedding), etc., etc., etc.
As long as we can afford it AND I get to do my own "personal hobby - shopping", who cares.
If it really bothers you, do separate bank accounts, then you won't feel like "your" money is paying for "his" hobby.
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matart1
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does he begrudge you of being able to do something?
does he begrudge you of having the ability of spending money?
is it important to you that he does not have a hobby altogether or that he should not be allowed to spend money?
my husband has hobbies that are different from mine. his have a price cap due to the expense or nature of the expense and then if we happen to have extra, he can purchase extra.
does the nature of your husband's hobby bother you?
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granny21
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I am recently laid off..."his" money is "our" money. The real problem is that I am trying to be very conservative about spending since my unemployment check is all I can contribute right now and he just spent almost $500 on his hobby without talking about it first. I am really hurt. That money could have gone toward something for the house, a weekend away for the two of us...something we could have shared. This is not the first time "his" wants have come first. I am sure it won't be the last.
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granny21
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He does complain about money we spend on things for the house and the kids. Like I said, I have been really frugal since being laid off.
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matart1
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make a "nest egg" for you with equal shares to what he spends on himself.
if expenses are dire and he is spending finances foolishly then that is just selfish.
kind of hard to change a person from that.
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Buckeye
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Maybe you need to explain the world of finance and being frugal right at the moment to your hubby.
I was "off work" for about 7 days about a month ago and everything extra was stopped immediately. No going out to eat - even to a hamburger place. I made up a budget, figured out our necessary expenses, what would be left over and we stuck to it. Of course, it was only for 7 days. But, maybe that is what you need to do - make up a budget.
Good luck!!!
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