zipzapgone
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Hello all...
My story is this ...I married someone who took great advantage of my generous, forgiving, easygoing nature. We dated for seven years and were married almost 8 when he informed me, "We're done, we can't be fixed." After months of me trying to fix the situation, he finally left AND 2 days before Christmas he served me with divorce papers.He was the stay-at-home dad and I was the responsible bread-winner. I put up with years of meanness, alcoholism and moodiness. His fix for the care of our child was for my parents to watch him who live 100 miles away. They came and have been living with me for almost a year. THANK GOD I have help. It turns out Mr. Stay-at-home dad had been entertaining an internet girlfriend and, thus, was his motivation for leaving "Easy Street". He also was surfing p0rn web sites during the child's nap times. NO WONDER he insisted our son needed naps!! (There was definitely no child p0rn)_Now he sees our son 2 afternoons a week at most. Sometimes just once a week. I KNOW my child needs to see his dad. I don't want to cut him off. But given the alcoholism and pornography,the fact that he hasn't seen our son more than 2 afternoons a week for a year can he get more custody? He hasn't asked yet. It seems like he is waiting for me to take care of him ONCE AGAIN through the great financial demand he is asking for and then will ask for more custody. He has alluded to the fact that he wants weekend visitation down the road. I have no problem with our son seeing his dad, I am just worried about overnights. Since our son's birth, he has watched him overnight by himself twice when I had to work overnight.(before he left)....What can I expect? I know I'm asking for a crystal ball prediction and I know there are far worse scumbags out there, but I want what's best for my child. Also, given his infedilty...how does that impact spousal support/alimony?
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cinder
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Unless there is proven documented abuse. He will most likely get EO weekend, EO holiday and one "dinner" per week.
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zipzapgone
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Thanks for the reply....sometimes you know the answer but you just hope you hear a different one....
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nrvouswrk
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I pretty much had the same situation when I divorced my ex. He not only was a hard core alcoholic, but even showed up to court skunk drunk. He was still given the standard EOW + 1 weekday evening that yours will no doubt get. I did have written into my agreement that he couldn't consume any alcohol 8 hours prior or any time during the visitation. That one little line has come in handy more than you know!
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zipzapgone
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Thanks for that tip!! I will most definitely arrange for that stipulation!
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