Debi
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I am off to court at 9:00 tomorrow morning. This is for the De Novo motion. My x is lying threw his teeth about everything to everyone, including his attorney. He has told his attorney that I keep calling him and telling him that I can't handle the kids and I want him to take them more. :crazy:(AS IF!) He called me today and told me my oldest D has been acting up (this is the one that isn't his) I told him that I don't have any problems with her (which I don't) so it must be him and I guess when she gets back from my mom's at the end of July I'll need to reevaluate whether or not she should spend any time with him. THAT shut him up. I'm on the verge of either a nervous breakdown or a vigillante out burst. Yesterday they made an offer of 350.00 a month CS and no objection to relocating. I told my attorney to tell him to jump straight up my @ss. :mad: What guts he has. I also told her to tell him that our new offer is that he can go completely by my terms on CS and relocation and I won't be the one to call the media and give them the story. I think she may not have shared that offer. ;) So everyone please wish me luck that the stupid crazy pedophile jerk, chokes on his own tounge tomorrow in court. (It would be okay if he did it in the middle of the night tonight too).
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KiwiGirl
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They are running scared. Expect another offer tomorrow morning. And your reply should go something like this... well let me see, middle school teacher downloading child porn on school premises using school property and the school-paid internet service anf he wants to have custody of little girls? Hmmm. I wonder?
If I was your attorney I would ask him to provide proof that you called him or emailed him to ask him to take more time with the girls. And does he have the documentation that he has filed for a change of custody in his favour?
He is pi ssing in the wind and as i said, expect some 'pre hearing' dealings.
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TGSM
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Stick to your guns Debi...you children deserve to be supported and protected from their sick POS father. (((HUGS))) Are you going to pursue the relocation?
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Faith-a f*rm belief in something for which there is no proof...complete trust.~Merriam Webster
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Debi
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He's not fighting the change in custody. Just the relocation (and as I told the social worker yesterday) he's not really objecting to the relocation, he's objecting to CS. He can't file a paper objecting to that though so he has to play the game. That means trying to get me where it hurts. Little does he know that it doesn't hurt me if I don't get to relocate. My life won't change from what it is now. What it boils down to is he thinks he's bargaining with steel, and what he's really bargaining with is little more than a hollow reed. His plan has no strength. I "want" to move with my children, but it's not imperitave to the well being of my relationship with my SO.
My attorney has come to realize that the man is psychotic. She used to call me and tell me things he said in an accusatory tone as if "I" was lying to "her". (This could be their tactic too, to get her to not trust me.) Now she just calls and says "here's the latest". Just the mention of his name makes me want to vomit.
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Debi
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Yes, I'm pursuing the relocation and sincerely hoping for it. If I don't get it though it will be okay. It scares me that they may not turn over custody though. Everything says it "should" be given to me, but how often do the courts not do the right thing? We've all been there. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't scared. To Death!
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TGSM
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If he's not fighting the custody change, then I sincerely hope the judge would put it through without question. Are you going to be able to use these charges against him? I sincerely hope so. If so, are you going to ask for supervised visitation? I would sweetie...he is a sicko.
Anytime you go to court, it's a scary deal...that was one reason my DH settled in May. Some money was better that none.
(((HUGS))) and post an update when you can!
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Debi
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I plan to ask for supervised visits, but in all honesty until he's convicted it's a hard fight. I'm going to do my darndest to use the charges against him. I guess I just don't know how anyone can consider someone who would do this a parent. I'm a very tolerant person, but NOT when it comes to hurting kids. I know everyone on this board feels that way too. According to my attorney some people view this as a very serious crime. (I'm one of those) and others view it as the "real" crime having already been commited and the offenders "just" looking at what's already out there. I can't understand that way of thinking. I think it's sick as hell. I do know it's a d@mn good thing for him that he never did anything to my children (Yes, I now consider them "mine")because he'd never make it to trial. Part of me wants to settle, but the other part knows if I do he'll hold it over me forever. It scares me that he could walk away from all the charges, no matter how small the chance because then I will fear for children. He'll think he has free reign to do whatever he wants.
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TGSM
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Well I am going to be praying for you guys...I sincerely hope the judge will grant you what you ask for. (((HUGS)))
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Faith-a f*rm belief in something for which there is no proof...complete trust.~Merriam Webster
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tsl
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Even though they have not "convicted" him yet, has charges been filed and pending? If so, isn't that enough to get a temp. order for supervised contact between him and the kids?
Good Luck today and let us know what happened.
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Dee78
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Let us know how it goes!!!
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