thisaintBB
enthusiast
Reged: 04/18/06
Posts: 244
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and I'm very sad!
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granny13
recently joined
Reged: 09/12/06
Posts: 16
Loc: KS
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I'm offering prayers for you today.
It is my anniversary today too. My 37th and hopefully my last as I filed for divorce Aug 4th . I haven't had the nerve to post my story yet , I have been reading and taking in all the good advice.
Be kind to yourself today.
Pat
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Annie7676
old hand
Reged: 06/05/05
Posts: 862
Loc: NY
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I agree be kind to your self today. Do something for you, that makes you happy and try to focus on positive things. Divorce is hard and it is sad but we have many chapters in our lives and there are many more to come. Hopefully you can close this one as sad as it is and move on and find happiness in the new ones yet to come.
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thisaintBB
enthusiast
Reged: 04/18/06
Posts: 244
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Pat I feel honored that your first post was for my sadness, thank you!
I'm actually doing OK, I had some good wisdom from my sister today which basically said "KEEP ON KEEPING ON"....
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Melanie1
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Reged: 12/09/05
Posts: 587
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Hi TABB,
Hang in there. This too shall pass...
Hugs,
Melanie
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The journey of a 1,000 miles begins with a single step. Lao Tzu
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KiwiGirl
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/09/05
Posts: 6271
Loc: Plains State
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Next year will be easier. Priomise. But this year clings like slime to you and tries to drag you down. It is natural and normal.
Remember, you have a finite number of tears to cry and each crying session is one less you will spend on him. The thing is God is the only one who knows the Magic Number!
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If I can't be part of the solution I insist on being most of the problem
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Runswithscissors
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 05/29/04
Posts: 13381
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I still remember our anniversary each year.. it doesn't "go" away... it just gets easier. This past Nov 3 would had been 16 years.....
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Chris1
journeyman
Reged: 06/04/05
Posts: 75
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TABB--Anniversaries can be difficult. It will be over in 24 hours. Today is the 5th anniversary of my divorce.
If it's any consolation, it gets much easier. While I was the one that filed for divorce, it was my ex who cheated.
The divorce was a long time coming. 5 years later, I'm very glad that I left him. Life is better, I have my ego back. I have good friends, a good job and a good life.
Trust me, it gets better. Keep your chin up.
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thisaintBB
enthusiast
Reged: 04/18/06
Posts: 244
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well guys I made it, I didn't hear from him and I kept myself from calling or texting him so that is progress...I'm ok today
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Karen1
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 1794
Loc: Ohio
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Isn't it better once the day has passed? I have a few "anniversary" dates... first date, wedding, day ex left, day divorce was final... . Oct 1 it will be 35 year mark... hard to believe.
They do get easier... but it does take time. I have read that for evey 7 years, it takes a year to get "past, or over, it". I will hit 5 years (x 7 = 35) this June since EX left, so will see. For the most part I think I am there... but the holidays were hard... so family orientated, seems everywhere you look. And I have so many happy memories that dredge up grieving the fact that I no longer have that life. But, it passes.
Christmas Eve was my best day... because I spent several hours with my son and d-i-l at their apartment in Cincy. We had a great time. I was also invited to her parents but opted out of that as would make me really late getting home and would miss the Christmas Eve services at church. We Had lunch at a nice restaurant called Trio and thought about going to the Chrome (sp?) Conservatory, but opted to just visit instead. Oh, and we watched part of the football game. Not my team and in fact a rival, so not real into it. My Browns suck again this year, so I am wating for the national championship college game and hoping the Buckeyes win.
I was so into the singing along with the Christmas music on the radio that the "bridge from Hell" as I call it... just sneaked up on me. Is on 71 N of Cincy and S of Wilmington, think is over the Maumee River. It is one HIGH and long bridge. I hate that bridge. Vertigo always kicks in and I feel like I am being pulled toward the edge, and the wall is not high enough to block the view of nothing! . I get almost 1/2 way across and then just go like heck to get back to land under the roadway. I have to time it right of course, so that I am not near a car in front of me. Coming home was better as it was dark and I could not see how high it is.
Glad the day has passed for you. This is hard time of your for you with anniversary dates... put the days do pass, although it at times seem like they are more than 24 hours long.
Bet your and Lyss are enjoying her time off school. Hang in there.
Karen
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"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened".
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