dadinwv
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I have 3 children ages 16,15, and 13. My ex has custody of the kids and she was recently investigated for "abuse and neglect" of the 16 year old. I had often suspected this, but the kids kept quiet. Apparently, the ex was turned in by a teacher. Anyways, the 16 year old says it is true and the night before the investigator came to their house, the kids were forced to clean house from 930pm to 11am the next morning (Which has been substantiated by 2 of the three kids)Then, the 16 was interviewed within ear shot of the ex, who had threatened the 16 year old the entire night during the cleaning frenzy. Now, the 16 year old feels she will be under even more abusive situations. Come on guys, what is a dad to do in this situation?
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Moi
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That is a rough one.... perhaps you can call CPS and speak to the caseworker. Tell her what your daughter told you about being threatened, that Mom could hear the interview, etc and ask that she reinterview the child in private.
Then I would perhaps petition for an emergency hearing asking that you receive temp custody till the investigation is complete and have both the caseworker and the teacher who reported to CPS in the first place testify.
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texasjoe
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I agree with Moi. If you have joint legal custody, then start taking the children to see a counselor. Explain to the counselor the situation and have the counselor diagnosis any other issues or concerns that they may have. With the teacher, CPS case worker and information from the counselor, you can seek a custody change or other remedies to solve the situation. This has to be about the children and not your ex. Be sure you focus on what is best for the kids and don't let any bitterness (whether you are aware of it or not) creep into the situation. Being an NCP is about business... and that business is attempting to raise healthy and stable children into adults. Seperate from your emotions and maximize your return on investment.
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dadinwv
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Here is an update. The 16 year old says she is not sure what she wants me to do. I am trying to keep her opinions and feelings in mind. She is afraid that something will backfire on her and she will either further infuriate and abusive person or her sibs wiill be influenced (and dare I say 'brainwashed') by her mom and her relationship with those sibs will be jeopardized. This leaves me feeling useless and confused. I appreciate the input from the posters.
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mikeb
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let her teacher help you through this, the teacher is required by law to report and follow through with the report, get your county family services involved, with the information you have stated you can have a restraining order place to protect all three kids and have a better chance on revising the custody order. get all your state and county services involved with this.
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