kip
recently joined
Reged: 02/12/07
Posts: 2
|
|
My beautiful wife has filed for a divorce, I have not been served yet. We have two beautiful daughters 11 and 12. I have never physically abused her and no infidelity, I have though negelected and taken her for granted. Married 23 years. She refused my request for counciling, I'm going to go anyway, I will ask her again. I'm living in the house with her until we see the judge, I don't want to abandon. Will/can the judge demand see gets counciling before he grants the divorce? THIS IS HE!!
Thanks, Kip
|
Curmudgeon
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 2002
Loc: MO Ozarks
|
|
Tough times. No doubt about it. What the judge can and/or will order is dependent upon your state's laws. I suggest you try to get a free consultation from an attorney to learn your options. If your wife is totally serious then divorce may be inevitable but going to counseling yourself may turn the tide because your wife will see that you're serious about trying to save the marriage. If it doesn't help fix things it will at least give you some coping skills that will be valuable.
--------------------
What me worry. I'm retired!
|
I_am_Jack
member
Reged: 01/31/06
Posts: 184
Loc: Louisiana
|
|
Coping skills are a necessity.
--------------------
Never allow anyone to persuade you to do that which is not best for you. -Pythagoras
|
GeorgiaPeach
newbie
Reged: 02/09/07
Posts: 31
|
|
You haven't said your wife's reasons for leaving. What are they?
|
asurvivor
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/14/05
Posts: 3410
|
|
He didn't say she left! They are still living in the house.
|
GeorgiaPeach
newbie
Reged: 02/09/07
Posts: 31
|
|
Excuse me. Permit me to rephrase the question: what are her reasons for wanting a divorce?
|
Gecko
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/01/04
Posts: 19802
Loc: Third rock from the sun
|
|
Will/can the judge demand see gets counciling before he grants the divorce?
---> If ya'll were getting a divorce in Canada the Judge (or whatever they call them up there) would, but NOT in the US.
--------------------
If you air your dirty linen in public, expect people to comment on the skid marks!
|
sally1234
enthusiast
Reged: 12/07/06
Posts: 237
|
|
Why she's leaving is an important part of this discussion is it not?
|
kip
recently joined
Reged: 02/12/07
Posts: 2
|
|
ok reasons for wanting to leaving, she hasn't told me but i know what they are. i'll just put them out here with no excuses.
1.no sex for about 9 months.
2.haven't slept in the same bed for 10 years.
3.sometimes i wouldn't bathe for 4 days.
4.we both have bad tempers.
5.and she is the main bread winner in the family.
pretty bad, huh? i'm doomed.
here's some excuses.
my daughters are atheletes, ones in olympic training. i was spending all my time and money on them, hurt my business especially the traveling to tournaments and training camps. Running my own business, taking all care of the kids, plus the house and cars. i'm a fool. and i know any of you that have been around this divorce stuff for a while are gonna hit the ceiling when i say i would change all this, alot of people on the loosingend say that from what i've seen. i'm tired i haven't slept in a weak and i'm hardly eating. thanks, kip
|
Debbie_L
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 06/06/05
Posts: 2031
|
|
"1.no sex for about 9 months.
2.haven't slept in the same bed for 10 years.
3.sometimes i wouldn't bathe for 4 days.
4.we both have bad tempers.
5.and she is the main bread winner in the family."
Is this for real? Personally, I would have been out the door for #1 alone - but then I'm pretty sexed up, lol. #2 - do you snore or something? #3 - that's just gross
|
Previous
Index
Next
Threaded
Edit
Reply
Quote
