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alimony for a mentally disabled spouse
      #204399 - 02/27/07 09:41 AM

Mississippi. I have been married for 27 years. My wife was diagnosed with depression and bipolar @8 years ago. On top of that she had two brain surgeries for a benign brain tumor but it still has affected her thinking and memory. As with alot of BP's, she abuses aderol and codine when she can. We have one son that is 22 years of age and fixing to graduate college. My wife is on disability of @$625 a month. I don't know if she is insurable with her medical history. I make @50,000 a year. If she got the house and car (already paid for) and some money how much would I have to pay in alimony. Please somebody help me. the only answer I can get from several attourneys is settle (don't go before a judge!!!). Please somebody help me!!!!!!!!

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Re: alimony for a mentally disabled spouse [Re: boutwell1i]
      #204410 - 02/27/07 10:00 AM

27 year marriage and her only source of income is $625. If you divorce her, she'll be uninsurable.

I think you'll be on the hook for significant alimony for the rest of your life.

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Re: alimony for a mentally disabled spouse [Re: Susanf31]
      #204419 - 02/27/07 10:16 AM

Why would she not have insurance? Wouldn't she be on Medicaid/Medicare if she was deemed disabled?

13.1...because I am only half crazy!

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Re: alimony for a mentally disabled spouse [Re: boutwell1i]
      #204423 - 02/27/07 10:28 AM

Who wants the divorce? Why? Any chance you two could stick it out?
Can your future earnings increase to offset your reduced standard of living, should you divorce?
If you haven't done so, sit down and work out the value of the home, car and other assets, and determine what 50-50 would look like. Then decide what scenario would benefit you and she the most. Do either of you really need the house, or would splitting the proceeds and downsizing be a better solution?
I'm sure Susan is correct in that you are looking at lifetime alimony/maintenance, so staying married a few years longer, won't affect the duration of that support. Just weigh all your options.

Experience is a wonderful thing.
It enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.

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Re: alimony for a mentally disabled spouse [Re: Lucy44]
      #204447 - 02/27/07 11:29 AM

My brother is bipolar, and living with them can be hell (he is a very severe case and goes absolutely CRAZY). Some bipolar people are able to have pretty normal lives and be well controlled most of the time - but not all. If she is anything like my brother, living with that person would be absolutely impossible (if not dangerous). I'm not saying she IS like him, but she very well could be. My sister in law had to divorce my brother eventually (I actually think she stayed with him far too long, to the detriment of their children). He has gotten worse and worse over time. He used to be able to keep it together for longer periods between episodes and hospitalizations.

I feel for both you and your wife. Mental illness can be so devastating. I wish both of you luck. I have no idea how much alimony you could expect to pay, but I assume it would be some since she won't be able to support herself.

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Re: alimony for a mentally disabled spouse [Re: boutwell1i]
      #204504 - 02/27/07 02:18 PM

In my state, you would pay:

$1,000/36 months; $700/36 months; $500/indefinately

If you air your dirty linen in public, expect people to comment on the skid marks!

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