geraldine
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Does anyone out there have a word of advice for our situation? My husband is paying alimony to his wife of 12 years. They had no children together. She has one son by a previous marriage that has a handicap & can work a little. He is over twenty but still gets support from his real father plus everything the government pays . My husband is easy going & didn't fight her during the divorce which started out as a joint thing since they both felt it was over. However she turned all fury loose once it was started. She had experience with her first divorce & knew all the tricks. She never worked but stayed home to take care of her son so they say she has no work skills & a slight weakness in her left arm since birth. Therefore she is handicapped. My husband has an injury since he was in the navy & has a partial disability check from the navy , they also paid for his education to get a good paying job. He lived with this woman while he was in school & married right after graduation. He felt inferior after his leg was paralyzed & she took advantage of that. He is supposed to pay until she turns 65 in 7 more years. Already been paying for 15 years.
The problem now is that his injury has gotten a lot worse & he is having a hard time working & standing on his feet. He was in the hospital for all last week. I think he needs to stop working full time but he feels he can't afford another 30 thousand dollars for lawyers to see if he can get it changed. Does anyone know how expensive it might be to go back & get this changed or know anything about the law on this. She got the house & half of savings & 18 percent of his pay with 5 % raise every 4 years. She had the best lawyer....... I have been searching the internet but not much info on alimony without child support.
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googledad
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Depending on the state that has jurisdiction , he can try to get the SS modified .
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geraldine
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The state is Florida.
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googledad
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Florida does allow SS modifications .
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Susanf31
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She's getting 18% of his pay with a raise of 5% every 4 years.
If your H got a 2% raise every year...below national standard, in 4 years, his income would have increased by approx. 8.24%, so percentage he is paying her is actually going down in relation to his income over the years.
You have to show a compelling change of circumstance to warrant a reduction/elimination of alimony. You are going to have to show that you H cannot work to his full capacity any longer.
How much is he currently paying her a month?
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gr8Dad
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
Edited by gr8Dad (04/25/07 12:54 AM)
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yregna
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Let me summarize Susan's post:
Your husband should work himself to death to pay his ex-wife, period. You should think about a life insurance and disability policy with YOU as the beneficiary.
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geraldine
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Oh yes, & that is another thing the good judge ordered is that he has to carry a 200 thousand life insurance on himself at his expense with her as sole beneficiary until the alimony is satisfied.. No man ever wants to get divorced in Florida. He had no problem with giving her the house & all furniture, and paying her a reasonable amount for a shorter period but she would not budge, & the judge ruled for her & her lawyer, who was an agressive lawyer that you would have thought had a personal agenda from what I have heard & seen on paper.
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Susanf31
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What's the big deal about that. It's fairly common is divorces today. My ex had to carry enough life insurnace on himself to satisfy my remaining alimony and to satisfy his remaining CS.
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Miranda
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[quote]What's the big deal about that. It's fairly common is divorces today. My ex had to carry enough life insurnace on himself to satisfy my remaining alimony and to satisfy his remaining CS. [/quote]
It should be recipricated where you should also carry a life insurance policy with HIM as your bene. in case you die first in order to satisfy child support that would be paid to him. Did you do that SUsan??
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