legalidiot
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Reged: 05/06/05
Posts: 250
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Excuse the long explanation, but I'm starting to become concerned.
I have a two year old daughter, and her personality is changing before my eyes. I'm not sure if it is just the "terrible twos", or if it is something related to the recent separation, or both.
She used to be so excited to see me when I would get her from daycare, and now... she acts excited at first, but after we get home, she gets up on the couch, pulls her blanket up to her nose...as if to smell something familiar, and puts her binky in her mouth.
Now, I have been getting her religiously every Friday and Saturday night for 6 months, and I read with her, play with her, and at least one of those days, I take her somewhere like the park, or the beach, etc. I love her more than anything, and am afraid that my somewhat distracted mindset. (from all of the horror of our separation) is somehow impacting my personality in a way that she doesn't feel comfortable. I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells, and can't distinguish from normal 2 year old behavior and problems stemming from our problems.
Don't get me wrong, for a good part of the time I have her...She seems normal, converses with me, jumps on me to play, etc. It's just that when I first pick her up, or if I take two seconds of attention away from her, she seems to get weird.
I apologize for the ignorance, but I'm a first time parent, and I want my little girl to be happy, and I'm deathly afraid of her developing personality disorders because of my wife and my irresponsibility. (not being able to solve our own problems.)
Thank You
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Miranda
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Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 20822
Loc: North of Mexico
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I would think this is normal. She may be regressing due to her home environment. When my ex and I split my son began to wet his bed. I believe that there was a direct correlation between his bed wetting and the absence of his father.
Also my sweet angel of a baby turned into a little monster at 3. Well not a full fledged moster, but his personality has def. changed from a perfect baby to an attitudinal toddler. (His father and I are married.) Some kids get hit at two sometimes it takes a little bit longer.
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Debi
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Reged: 06/03/05
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My 7 yo was 3 when my x and I split and she started sleeping with me after the seperation. Something she never did before. She also became very clingy, which wasn't her personality. She grew out of it and is a happy healthy social butterfly. Just be yourself with her. Don't do anything you wouldn't if you were still with her mother. ie.....give into everything she wants. Use the same discipline as before such as time outs. Try to keep as many of her routines as normal as possible. Like if she always had a story before bed or was rocked for a few minutes before bed or always had the same afternoon snack, try to keep that the same. EVERYTHING can't be the same but the more normalcy she has the better she will do. Trust me she will probly do better than you. (I don't mean that in a bad way, though.) You'll both be fine.
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