Karberry
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This is not so much about divorce, as the my ex and I were never married, but lived together for 10 years. We split as friends, while I was pregnant, our choice to not raise kids in a hostile environment. We are still close and he takes an active role in the girls lives. They are now 11 (twins). When they were around 3-4 we learned that their dad had parented another child that was about 2 years younger than the girls. It was a one night stand, that turned nasty thru the follwoing years. The mom was very hostile towards him, hiring big guns for child support. He has only seen his other daughter a few times for a few hours at a time. (she lives in the midwest, we are on the west coast). The other mom has since married and has another child and seems to have a steady home life. Her daughter knows her stepdad is not her dad, and has recently started asking about her real dad. My ex wants to tell our daughters about their half sister and go out and meet her. I am fine with this, as they will someday find out, but am wondering how this will affect them, what are the pros and cons? I can't imagine living my 11 year old life and then one day waking up and finding out it is different....
Any ideas, suggestions, advice????
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BeckaLeigh
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My daughter went through this in a way. Her dad had two other daughters with another woman, one of which was born after dad passed away. It didnt chock my D, she loved the idea of having more family. I dont see any cons in my situation. Even though dad passed, my D still goes and stays with his wife and their two little girls, along with their aunt on his side.
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I tried being normal once. Worst five minutes of my life.
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anglwbrknwngs7
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I think they will be fine with it as long as you and dad show you are fine with it. The kids may not fully understand, but they will as they get older and you guys could be opening up a wonderful relationship for them. If not then it won't be because you stopped it. My son didn't meet his half-siblings until he was 4 (they were 10 and 11) and they clicked instantly, you would never have thought it was the first time they had spent time together.
Best of Luck!
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