concernedgrammy
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My ex-daughter-in-law just had my 2-year-old granddaughter started on antipsychotic medication. My ex-DIL takes my GD to the doctor frequently. Although I often was concerned by the frequent trips to the doctors and weird home remedies my X-DIL came up with, I wasn't overly worried because the frequent doctor appointments, etc., weren't physically harmful to my granddaughter. My X-DIL describes my granddaughter as an anxiety-ridden, uncontrolable, unmanageable child. I have my granddaughter overnight very often, as does my mother, and other family members are around often, and no one but my DIL observes this behavior. We all just see her as a typical two-year-old. I believe, for many reasons other than her child rearing abilities, that my Ex-DIL would benefit from some type of therapy herself. Among other things, she is defintely a control freak. I believe that she cannot control her child (more than anyone can "control" a two-year-old), so she wants to make her into a zombie. At the age of two, my granddaughter has had MRIs, x-rays, brain scans, etc., which all come out normal. She has been to every type of doctor (including a child psychiatrist who would not prescribe medication for my GD). My ex-DIL desperately wants my granddaughter diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrom and recently told me she was going to demand that the center she takes her to give that diagnosis so that my GD could receive treatment. My ex-DIL recently took my GD to yet another neurologist and, after a 15-minute office visit, this neurologist put my grandchild on antipsychotic medication. My question is, what can a grandmother do about this? My son and his ex know how I feel about this but my opinion doesn't count with them. (My son is really making me angry because he is going along with his ex just so that she doesn't get angry -- she has a wicked temper! But that my son won't defend my GD is more than frustrating.) What kind of doctor would put a two year old on antipsychotic meds??? I have lost all faith in the medical community!
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lilgypsy
old hand
Reged: 09/04/07
Posts: 1015
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The medical profession tries really hard to not diagnose a child before the age of four. My son, at two would beat his head into things--including otther children... they started the testing but couldn't adaquately treat him until he developed more--- hopefully it works this way for you granchild as well! I don't agrree with pills so early on but maybe the mom will be able to get steered in the right direction with parenting tips?
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wendieann
journeyman
Reged: 11/13/06
Posts: 96
Loc: Manitoba, Canada
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Is there a medical board you can write too?
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MEP Manitoba Complaints ~ Facebook Forum
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MTmom
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 08/23/07
Posts: 2711
Loc: MT
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If MOM and DAD agree on the treatment for THEIR child, backoff - THEY are the parents.
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Renee
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Reged: 06/02/05
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Loc: The Palmetto State
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Normally MTMom I'd agree with you, but a 2yo on antipsych meds? After numerous docs, tests and a psych couldn't find a problem? I would hope mom would work on her parenting skills before doctor shopping to drug her kid. In 2yrs time has a new mom even had the time to develop all of the parenting skills necessary to deal with a toddler? We all know that if you look hard enough you can find a doc who will prescribe whatever you want - look at Anna Nicole.
I wonder if mom is a candidate for Munchausen, and why dad doesn't grow a set. Grandparents *shouldn't* meddle of course, but if the OP is posting the unbiased truth, it sounds like a problem to me. JMO.
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noraj
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for one thing if you ever file for visitation rights do not ever tell her until it is done.she will tell the court the child is too sick to come and use the illness to get her way with the judge.tell the judge the child is stable and on meds.use it to your advantage noraj if you ever need to.not much you can do about the doc.she is the parent and in charge
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