shifty
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My wife approached me last week. She said her sister who lives in a different province offered to pay her airfare to go out for a visit. She asked me if she could go for two weeks. I agreed. Then I started noticing that if i entered the room where the computer was she would be minimizing screens. Then one day when i arrived home from work she was sleeping so i sat down to check my email. her msn messenger was signed in and as i was checking my email she started to receive messages from someone that i didnt recognize. "I cant come to see you this weekend only on saturday and your husband is off that day"
Well now I had real suspicions so I looked through her history of messages. She isnt planning on returning she is moving there to be with an exboyfriend . And to top it her "boyfriend" is on the run from the police. Isn't it illegal to bring minors into a situation like that with a felon on the run? I have been able to act normal with her and we have even planned a night out in three weeks.
She leaves tomorrow and I am scared I want to stop her but if i do I have no case.
I will be calling a lawyer when i drop her off at the airport. I have an address where she will be staying, I am not really afraid for the childrens safety but I will get her charged with abduction if need be.
If she commits adultry do i have any right with the family assets?
Does messenger history ever get accepted in court?
I NEED ANY KIND OF ADVICE
Edited by shifty (11/15/07 04:51 PM)
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lilgypsy
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file papers ASAP and DO NOT let her go on the trip with the kids. You can prevent her from moving to a different province because access to the children would be very difficult....
If you don't file the papers though, she can go wherever she wants.
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shifty
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but how can I say anything. she has already told me the return flight date. and all i have is the messenger history will that stand up in court?
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lilgypsy
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If she has a return flight date, she'll come back? If you aretaking her to the airport, see casually if you can see her ticket; it will confirm whether or not she plansd to come back. If there is a return date and she fails to come back, it can get ugly. If you request your daughter and she tries to hide, she can end up facing criminal charges unless she is afraid of you?? Are their any issues there?? What Province are you in? I'll get you the family court info for your province.
Also, you may want to see a lawyer or call dial-a-law
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shifty
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The tickets were booked online so we have no hard copy. I am not actuallty taking her to the airport only to the ferries (I am on vancouver island in B.C.) from there she is on a bus to the airport. I have been keeping a mini diary (just a few lines each day) on what we said to each other. eg. planning a night out later on in the month (december) with some friends of ours. I am afraid but unless I let her go I can't really catch her in any wrong doing. I hope that makes sense. I still feel dads walk into the courtroom behind the eight ball before we even open our mouths, I want my kids in my home where they belong. Tonight while she was packing I started to breakdown I told her I just hated being in the house alone, I missed my girls when they weren't here. She assured me things were going to be ok. That she loved me and always would. We even discussed xmas plans for the family. I actually started to feel maybe she had come to her senses, However later I intercepted an email it was a sitter in ontario (a family friend) that she was asking to babysit for her, because she needed to get a hotel room with "him" . One thing I have found out though is how much her family thinks of me, nobody will allow her to stay with them because they respect me too much.
I will call dial a law to get some advice but i still don't know if any of my "evidence" will help me. No issues with her being afraid of me according to her she loves me.
thanks for the help
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Edited by shifty (11/16/07 01:15 AM)
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Lucy44
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I'd find out what this guy is wanted for, and turn his arse in!
That will put an end to this trip, at least.
If she does not return and makes it clear that you two are finished, consider flying to ON and picking up your kids, BEFORE she files for custody, or does anything else to prevent you from taking them home.
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lilgypsy
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BC is pretty file friendly; the papers aren't too hard to figure out. I'll get the links for you.
Maybe your wife is going on this trip but plans on coming home?? Is it possible that she is going for a fling and lying to the con?? (I agree with turning him in--it would only take a phone call to the RCMP) If she doesn't return, you can go and get the children and return them to BC. WHile you pick the children up though, be ready to file your custody papers because, otherwise, there is no stopping the tug of war with the kids.
Try to hang in there. A question--if she does return, knwing that she had an affair, would you want to stay in the relationship or file for divorce?? Have yout hought about sitting your wife down and telling her that you know??
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