lilgypsy
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trial was put off last time so that he could gather documents. He goes to court again on December third. I hate this. I try to understand that a charged person needs a chance to prove their so-called innosence, but there sure is no regard to the victim sometimes. Since 2006, I have been waiting to see what comes of this...in ways, my life has been on hold, pending this. If he goes to jail or if he stays out does make a difference to me, safety wise.
I'm just venting and being a little whiny too....
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Relayer
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Murder trials drag on for years kiddo
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lilgypsy
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I know Relayer, but I'm not dead yet LOL (Bad joke, I know!) Hopefully, this will be done. It's hard soemtimes to know which way is up when this is still out there and he's acting like a psycho.
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Renee
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Sorry about the delay LG. Take some time to be whiny in the comfort and safety of your home, find something really goofy to laugh at on the internet, and call it a nite. Tomorrow will be a better day.
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lilgypsy
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This is posted on the Child Custody board as well....
I've been a stress case this week..or two! On Monday is my ex #2's trial for DV charges... And then in a couple will be court for visitation. My world, in the last year and a half, seems to be like I'm trying to take steps forwards but against a brick wall. I have kept on thinking, "Once this is dealt with, I can do..X, Y, and Z.." The days leading up to his court appearances on these charges are always rough. My head spins on the 'what if's' and I have a very hard time functioning.
Today, I took a step forward in the process. I called the Prosecutor to speak to him about what was going to happen. He was so incredibly helpful and I feel so much better, but still confused. First, I asked about the plea deal. He is stepping in new--the other prosecutor had a heart attack, so he didn't know all details. He did tell me that he saw nothing in terms of a 'deal' being made. He also said that he didn't see this being resolved on Monday like I had been thinking.
So, I discussed my concerns with the no contact order being lifted in the event that a deal was made. I told him that in family court, there was already an order with my two oldest kids that I am NCP to, that there is to be no contact with Ex #2. This is on top of the condition that there be no contact with myself through the criminal courts. The Prosecutor asked if I had a lawyer for the Family Court issues and I said no, that I had to do this on my own. He told me that there could be no contact orders put in place until trial issues were over for the children. He said that he would request no contact with my two oldest, supervised with his biological daughter only, and no contact to continue for myself, and add the babe in there. He told me that if a deal is made, that he can put these into place-- that way, in the event, that he gets goofy again, he would go to jail immediately, to serve out the full sentence of the DV charges (They still have five years down as what they want him to serve). I jumped all over it, with no hesitation.
What I don't understand now, is the issues with Family Court coming up. If these conditions are in place through the Federal Criminal Court System, the issues for Family Court would be dealt with, wouldn't they? I mean, if these conditions are in place until the trial is over and then in his sentencing conditions, they can't be argued in Family Court can they????
Thanks in advance!
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blueberryviolet
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It sounds like your (sounds like from the other posts) sociopath ex will argue anything.
I don't know what state you are in, but where I am a court order is effective no matter what court it is issued in and it carries all over the US.
Why did he say that the orders for the two oldest would be placed until the trial issues were over for the children?
Even in two different Court systems, Judges rarely go against another Judges ruling. Its disrespectful.
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Relayer
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She is in Canada
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lilgypsy
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Why did he say that the orders for the two oldest would be placed until the trial issues were over for the children?
~~~ When i talked to the Prosecutor, I let him know that there was already a no contact in place with them and through family court with the other dad. This guy is wonky and breaking the no contact over and over again. I have been stressed out that if he goes goofy while I have my children, my other ex would file contempt because we agreed the two oldest would have no contact. That's why the Prosecutor is going to put it in. Because he has been disrespecting the orders, they are going to step it up and keep him in for his full sentence if he breaks the no contact orders again... Only the three year old his his biologically.
Thanks :)
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blueberryviolet
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Wow. I would think that as long as YOU did not intentially violate the order, the oldest 2's father could not get the court to find contempt.
Be careful. Watch your back, chin up and remember, glass and clear plastic reflects images. You can watch people everywhere around you. It has saved my life before.
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lilgypsy
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I don't think that a Judge would take a contempt on the issue, but I've had a hard run with the first ex; I talked to the Prosecutor just to cover my own as s:)
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