kampac96
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Long story short, we want to take SD16 on a week long cruise for her graduation to follow her graduation next June. BM 'wont allow it' that weekend that we will be up there (we live out of state) because she 'might' have a grad party for SD that or the following weekend and told SD that she is not allowing her to miss her FRIENDS parties either! So this woman, just to be a sh*t to US, is screwing her kid out of a beautiful vacation for her graduation! She refuses to read the emails though I am sure she is reading but just not responding, and she told SD that if we want to plan anything we have to send her a letter in the mail. yeah, waste money on stamps and take 5 days to get a response, forget it. I am sure this is retribution for DH calling child services in February when she beat SD (which ended up doing nothing) but we are doing this for the kid, it has nothing to do with her, but she 'wont allow' it. I can tell you I am not going to beg that woman and neither is DH so I am thinking about planning the trip for when all the kids come for spring break, but then we have to get some family to watch her brothers for while we are away. Which is also bad because they miss out on the visit. But we will tell them we will do the same for them for graduation too. AHHH! How can she pull this to get back at us and not even care that it affects her kid!
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Hmm...if she is 18 and graduated, can she not decide for herself?
Most friend type grad parties seem to be held grad weekend...and some pre grad parties prior to the actual weekend...at least from my experience. It would seem thsi decision really should be SD's.
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kampac96
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She wont turn 18 until that July.
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If she decideds to go with you...what would BM do? Would a few weeks until 18 really make any difference to a court?
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Sherron
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"I am thinking about planning the trip "
I'm confused...so, this trip has not been planned yet, bm is telling what weekends won't work for her (sd being 18 set aside for now...as someone had mentione before, if she lives at bm's house, she should follow the rules there), and you are not able to plan around this a year in advance? You would rather sd miss out on the cruise than you guys take a second trip up there the same month to come get her?
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Make it a Birthday/Grad Trip!
Can I go?
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kampac96
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This particular cruise only goes out of the port near our house for 3 weekends in June. Then, we have to still plan the summer month for the other 2 kids. Also, hurricane season starts June and gets worse through the summer so the chances of that increase as well. believe me, BM is just being a sh*t about it becuase SD told her she doesnt want her party until the end of the summer so she can go with us and BM said tough. If the only factor was SD and her trip of course we could try something else but we both have jobs with limited time off and 2 other kids coming for a month to think about - it would just have been perfect taking her right after graduation and cruising that week.
Edited by kampac96 (06/18/08 12:58 PM)
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I would not have wanted to miss my own or my friends grad parties.
That was the last time since graduation all my friends and I were together... looking back, I wouldn't trade those memories for anything.
SD has the rest of her life to do fun things w/ you. Why stress her out on what should be a fun and memorable weekend with friends and classmates she won't see for years to come.
IMHO, you're being the difficult one.
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kampac96
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SD WANTS to go!! Gee, I thought we were being the nice ones planning an expensive trip and trying to make it for when we are up there to take her with us since BM wont make any extra trips! I personally would have killed for a weeklong cruise at that age, forget the parties! We are not being difficult at all, we are trying to plan something that she will remember for a lifetime. Her mother will just make her a party and then tell her she owes her money for it! And did I mention that SD WANTS TO GO!!!?
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Sherron
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kampac, that info changes a few things. I still think you should let sd enjoy her graduation and parties, but I understand where you're coming from.
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