nolonger
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1/30/09 - call to my cell from x @ 4:14,4:20,5:06,5:07,5:09,5:24, 5:25
1/29/09 - 9:08, 9:09
1/28/09 - 5:11, 6:33
1/27/09 - 7:57, 7:58, 9:45, 3:33, 3:35
1/26/09 - 7:45, 12:02, 12:17, 12:26, 12:33, 12:37, 12:53, 1:09, 2:50
1/23/09 - 8:12, 11:35
1/22/09 - 7:43, 7:45
1/21/09 - 7:29, 11:21, 12:34, 12:39
1/20/09 - 6:58, 6:59, 7:31, 1:57, 2:31, 3:32, 3:45
1/19/09 - 1:09, 1:12, 1:46, 4:37
1/16/09 - 12:34, 1:16, 4:03
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rocketgirl
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Did he leave messages on all of those calls?
Yes, I would consider it harrassment.. and I would get my number changed or block his calls.
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shortmarriage
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I would consider that harassment, too. Did you say that you were checking into a RO? What does your attorney say you should do about these calls? I also thought about blocking his calls, but if the kids are with him, you probably want him to be able to get in touch with you just in case something happens. Can you block his calls only when the kids are with you? Hopefully, once everything with the divorce is settled, maybe he'll calm down. When are you dividing the assets? Is it still going to be supervised by the police?
Can the RO say that only reasonable calls about the kids can be made to you, and anything else is considered harassment?
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nolonger
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The cop said the harassing calls were not criminal in that he was not threatening my life or safety.
She did say that the purpose of the calls to get me to change the final judgement was questionable as there are legal means to do this and he was not following the proper course of action.
She took the complaint, will file a charge but she emphasized that without an RO this is not a criminal matter. I could go the civil route and MAYbe have a chance at punishing him. I told her my soul purpose was to get him to stop. So then she urged me to get a restraining order, which I did. The judge took 1/2 a minute to read my statement and without even interviewing me (we have a reputation and he saw with his own eyes Xs demeanor in court last week) and he signed a temp RO. I'm waiting to hear confirmation that he got served. Injunction trial is next Tuesday.
At the very least, I will have peace for a week. AND a course of action if I don't.
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Misslisa1017
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Yeah they have to threaten your life. My son's ex's girlfriends call him all the time and leave 12 year old mentality pranks on our answering machine about poopy diaper insurance. How do we know it's them? Voices. The time they make the call.
It's getting old and it's annoying. All we can do is block the calls and what not.
They call they harass, they send harassing emails to him, he got fed up and again he was told, it has to be threatening to his life. Because otherwise everyone would be able to have a RO out on people. He blocks the emails and they find another way to him.
What they are able to do for him because the one girl that is instigating all this, she's 21 and really immature like his ex and pregnant if you can imagine that, they are trying to get her to get in touch with them. The police that is. They want to talk with her to at least let her know that it's inappropriate. So as to at least hope she'll stop.
Where does it end. In one of the emails the girl makes fun of his sons genitals...and his ex defends this girl? Give me a break. These are friends she wants in her life?
Maybe I'm the one that's not seeing clearly here. Right?
I hope you are able to some peace this week.
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Misslisa1017
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Oh and what I wanted to mention, is this one girl, the 21 yr old that pregnant, that the cops are trying to get in touch with, only my sons ex has her cell.
So she's only knows her number. SHe's been given the message to give to this girl from the state trooper to have this girl call him from a week ago, and this girls till hasn't called him. The cop called again tonight and wanted to know if my son knew the girls number. And asked my son to call his ex and get the number.
His ex isn't going to give that number to him. So all she said is she'll give the message to her friend again. But the ex swears her friend hasn't done any ill deeds. Yeah right. And yet we have all the emails right here. His ex is some piece of work I tell ya. I've even showed her the emails and she refuses to look at them.
So my take is this girl not calling the cop, equals, guilty.
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]1/30/09 - call to my cell from x @ 4:14,4:20,5:06,5:07,5:09,5:24, 5:25
1/29/09 - 9:08, 9:09
1/28/09 - 5:11, 6:33
1/27/09 - 7:57, 7:58, 9:45, 3:33, 3:35
1/26/09 - 7:45, 12:02, 12:17, 12:26, 12:33, 12:37, 12:53, 1:09, 2:50
1/23/09 - 8:12, 11:35
1/22/09 - 7:43, 7:45
1/21/09 - 7:29, 11:21, 12:34, 12:39
1/20/09 - 6:58, 6:59, 7:31, 1:57, 2:31, 3:32, 3:45
1/19/09 - 1:09, 1:12, 1:46, 4:37
1/16/09 - 12:34, 1:16, 4:03 [/quote]
No- You weren't picking up his god damn calls. If he wanted to discuss something about the kids, it's your responsibility to answer, at least the first one.
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Misslisa1017
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You didn't answer another posters question, did he leave messages when he called you? I'm curious as to what he was saying?
If he wasn't threatening you or wanting to harm you then what were the calls about?
And what did the police consider them? Just curious.
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nolonger
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YD, I actually could not WAIT to hear from you! I did answer. He said, "You HAVE to talk to me about changing the final divorce judgement."
First of all, BOTH lawyers told him NOT to contact me by phone. He ignores. Oh well. Next thing, he has instructions to communicate with me about the kids ONLY. If he has a matter with the judgement, he is to go thru the lawyers. He never did. Third thing, he knew I was in the car driving with my daughter. Even if I would discuss changing the judgement, I would NOT do it in front of her.
So I said to him, "No-can-do, "daughter" is in the car. Goodbye."
The rest of his calls he left messages threatening to get into my home and take my jewelry to give to his future wife and that he wants my boat (he has 2). I texted him that I understood his motivation to change the judgement (he wants to keep his house AND keep all the money, too) but that calling me was not the proper channel for doing so. I gave him my lawyers phone number. I told him NOT to call me again as I was on a hockey trip with my D and would not be alone to talk (staying in a hotel with friends).
He called 4 more times and even called my D twice. ALL of his messages were distressing so much that I didn't listen past the 1st sentence.
Two days later, he called my D and instructed her to put me on the phone. Not wanting to put her in the middle nor not wanting her to have to hang up on him, I got on the phone. His only words were, "YOU pick up the boys from my girlfriend's uncle's house or I'm keeping them overnight." It was my custodial night. He hung up on me.
So on Superbowl Sunday, I went to a perfect stranger's home, interrupted the party and got my kids from my ex-friend's (now his girlfriend) uncle's house which is literally 1/2 mile from my home.
YD - I understand where you think you're coming from. However, it is not the same place my X is coming from. You may be more normal than he. But not much.
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