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mlk2009
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My husband is always threatening
      #532260 - 05/11/09 11:49 AM

Hi,
My husband constantly keeps threatening to throw me out of the house for any petty quarrels. I was working and lost my job when my company was downsizing 2 months back. Since then I am at home. I have little kid. My husband is always rude and harsh when I dont do exactly how he tells. I have to be doll and shake my head always. If I back answer or reply he keeps threatening me to pack my bags and leave. I have nobody here. I am really frustrated and at the edge of my reason. Is there a law to protect women. If I call 911 in this situation what will be the outcome.


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Re: My husband is always threatening [Re: mlk2009]
      #532279 - 05/11/09 12:30 PM

You deserve to be threatened. GET OFF YOUR A$$ AND GET A JOB AND PAY YOUR OWN BILLS !!

WHY DOES HE HAVE TO PAY YOUR BILLS ? Are you somehow helpless ? Grow up !

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Re: My husband is always threatening [Re: yregna]
      #532409 - 05/11/09 04:26 PM Attachment (149 downloads)

yregna...are you an idiot or what?

That pathetic excuse for a man shouldn't be threatening or bullying this poor woman wether she works or not.

What a pair of self righteous a**holes you are. Go back under the rock from which you slithered.

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Re: My husband is always threatening [Re: mlk2009]
      #532414 - 05/11/09 04:37 PM

This so called man is a bully, and what he is doing is abuse. If you are serious about getting away from him, then you need to record EVERY event of abuse that occurs. Domestic abuse can be in a physical or mental form, and it would be wise to do something about this before it becomes physical.

How old is your child, does he/she witness this abuse?

I really feel for you, because my husband used a threatening manner, even going as far as to say he would never hit me so that there would be no proof of what he was doing to me.....however he couldn't help himself & lashed out one night. I haven't seen him since, but I already had a new house lined up, I didn't want to live in the marital home, too many bad memories.

You could try a restraining order.

Ignore the idiot who thinks you deserve what you get, He (I assume) is obviously bitter about stuff, and hasn't a clue what he is going on about.

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Re: My husband is always threatening [Re: mentalist]
      #532645 - 05/12/09 07:42 AM

>>>>>yregna...are you an idiot or what?

He's a troll.

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You shouldn't toss around "abuse"... [Re: mentalist]
      #532653 - 05/12/09 07:49 AM

What he's doing might be a slight form of mental abuse, but it is a long way from "abuse". From what little is given, there is also no basis for an RO. Threatening to leave, to pack her bags, or being rude and harsh are not RO eligible. If I were her and he threatened to pack her bags or to leave, I'd either pack them myself or tell him "so go...nothing's keeping you here". He might just STFU.

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Re: You shouldn't toss around "abuse"... [Re: almostheaven]
      #533974 - 05/14/09 02:15 AM

and not a reason to call 911..........

Well said AH


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Re: You shouldn't toss around "abuse"... [Re: almostheaven]
      #534022 - 05/14/09 05:48 AM

Definitions of abuse on the Web:

* mistreat: treat badly; "This boss abuses his workers"; "She is always stepping on others to get ahead"
* pervert: change the inherent purpose or function of something; "Don't abuse the system"; "The director of the factory misused the funds intended for the health care of his workers"
* maltreatment: cruel or inhumane treatment; "the child showed signs of physical abuse"
* use foul or abusive language towards; "The actress abused the policeman who gave her a parking ticket"; "The angry mother shouted at the teacher"
* a rude expression intended to offend or hurt; "when a student made a stupid mistake he spared them no abuse"; "they yelled insults at the visiting team"
* use wrongly or improperly or excessively; "Her husband often abuses alcohol"; "while she was pregnant, she abused drugs"
* misuse: improper or excessive use; "alcohol abuse"; "the abuse of public funds"

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Re: You shouldn't toss around "abuse"... [Re: almostheaven]
      #534024 - 05/14/09 05:54 AM

...just going off my own experience.

From little things big things grow.

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Re: You shouldn't toss around "abuse"... [Re: mentalist]
      #534040 - 05/14/09 07:02 AM

Hon, I know what abuse is. I went through it. I'm talking fist in the face, rubbing my face in gravel, pulling me down a hall by my hair kind of abuse. He even put a hammer through the TV. But that was just abuse of a TV. And had that been the end of it, that too would not have been abuse worthy of legal action. And yes, the little things CAN grow. Doesn't mean they will. Sometimes, you just put your foot down and they realize they didn't have the control they thought they did, and as I stated...they sometimes STFU. But until it DOES grow, there's simply no basis for any legal actions.

There are all kinds of abuse. Some are worthy of an RO, some are not. What the OP has written is nowhere near anything a court is going to be interested in, for an RO OR for a divorce. It would be chalked up to irreconcilable differences.

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