donewithitall
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Hi everyone, I am hoping someone can help me since i havent got alot of time.
We were do to Pcs by the end of next week, We live in Onpost housing and we have already had the pre inspection last thursday, and final is to be donw by the 12th.Last night he was drunk and got mad at me because i suggested he dont go anywhere. He calls me all kinds of names, and then said "you can take your dumbass and your peice of [censored] kids and get out of my house" He gets in my face, shoves me and thn slams the hard screen door on my 8 year old pushing him into me and me pushing into my daughters b/f. the cops have a report of it, but this isnt the first time hes been called for violance on me or my kids. He was escorted out of houseing for 72 hours last night, (thats the 2nd time). and I want a divorce!! plan and simple. Hes been a major A** sinc he came home from Iraq and I wont deal with him treating me kids like they are a fungus anymore!! Hes been to counseling over a past incident but it didnt help. and left us here with no car and no money. This time I have the car and dity move money.
So what are my rights. We have been married 3 years Aug 4th. No kids together. all 4 aremine from a previous marriage. Will i still have to leave housing by friday?? I have no family here and no where to go! I know i cant just take the car and leave or the money. So I am very stressed. and scared for my kids. Doesnt he have to provide or us until the divorce is final? and i have read on here in diff post that he has to give me the BAH?? is that correct.
I dont know how Military divorces work so can someone PLEASE inform me.
Thank you sooooooo much for your time!! :confused:
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elliesmom
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Military divorces work the same as everyone elses.
You didn't mention the branch of service, but they all have requirements as far as how much he has to support a spouse. I don't know that you will get the spouse/kids rate since the kids are not his. Some services simply say the BAH is the amount.
I would suggest that given the absence of any property or children that you figure out what you want. You need to get a job and a place to live - be it there or wherever you choose to go. Given the short duration of your marriage I doubt you will be getting anything in the way of alimony after your divorce. If you think he would sign it - pay a lawyer to draw up a a stipulated decree, file it, and be on your way. Typically you are entitled to half of the property accumulated during the marriage. If you want the DITY move money (or part of it) I would think at a minimum you would have to use it to move - because he needs to be able to provide proof that he used it for that purpose.
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AloneInTheDark
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Just curious, you said he has been "bad" since he came back from Iraq, is PTSD involved. Maybe you should call his next command and tell them about his behavior change since it seems to be dramatic.
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