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JohannE
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Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT
      #551962 - 07/08/09 10:19 PM

I've decided to get divorced. I'm trying to figure out how much SS I would have to pay.

We’ve been married for 7 years; however, 3 months after the marriage I came to the US (Connecticut). She stayed there (Czech Republic) because of the immigration issues. While she was there she lived with my parents and worked part-time as a teacher (BA degree) but with no financial responsibilities (I paid for everything). She came here a year ago and continued working for a pleasure (part-time in a department store: around $5000/year). She refused to work full time or to take more hours in the store. I work full time and part time (65 hours/week) and hardly make $50000 a year. We have no children, no property, $20000 debts (credit cards and student loan), and a car (partially paid).

I asked her to do pro se divorce since I cannot afford a lawyer. She said she will consider if I offer here enough for SS. How much should I offer her and for how long? She’s 29 years old, no health issues, nothing preventing her from supporting herself (except that she does not want to work more than few hours a week). She’s going to live with her uncle so I suppose won’t pay for anything (nothing new).

I know there is no formula to calculate SS but please try to estimate based on your experience / knowledge. I will appreciate any advises.

Thank you!


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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: JohannE]
      #551997 - 07/09/09 06:46 AM

[quote]I've decided to get divorced. I'm trying to figure out how much SS I would have to pay.

We’ve been married for 7 years; however, 3 months after the marriage I came to the US (Connecticut). She stayed there (Czech Republic) because of the immigration issues. While she was there she lived with my parents and worked part-time as a teacher (BA degree) but with no financial responsibilities (I paid for everything). She came here a year ago and continued working for a pleasure (part-time in a department store: around $5000/year). She refused to work full time or to take more hours in the store. I work full time and part time (65 hours/week) and hardly make $50000 a year. We have no children, no property, $20000 debts (credit cards and student loan), and a car (partially paid).

I asked her to do pro se divorce since I cannot afford a lawyer. She said she will consider if I offer here enough for SS. How much should I offer her and for how long? She’s 29 years old, no health issues, nothing preventing her from supporting herself (except that she does not want to work more than few hours a week). She’s going to live with her uncle so I suppose won’t pay for anything (nothing new).

I know there is no formula to calculate SS but please try to estimate based on your experience / knowledge. I will appreciate any advises.

Thank you! [/quote]

LOL..She has no money for an attorney either. Does she think you are going to pay for her's? That on;y usually happens in one is filing frivolous after frivolous court motions. Where did she get the idea she would have a free attorney?

In addition, after 7 years, with one year here, you more than likely won't be ordered to pay any support.

Not sure on the immigration issues (of her or you)


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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: Yes_Dad]
      #552399 - 07/09/09 04:17 PM

[quote] LOL..She has no money for an attorney either. Does she think you are going to pay for her's? That on;y usually happens in one is filing frivolous after frivolous court motions. Where did she get the idea she would have a free attorney?

In addition, after 7 years, with one year here, you more than likely won't be ordered to pay any support.

Not sure on the immigration issues (of her or you) [/quote]

Her uncle will finance everything so she does not care. I think I will have to pay her SS since I've been supporting her for last 7 years... Any ideas what would be a reasonable amount?

Her immigration issues are resolved (I am a citizen).


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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: JohannE]
      #552414 - 07/09/09 04:36 PM

[quote][quote] LOL..She has no money for an attorney either. Does she think you are going to pay for her's? That on;y usually happens in one is filing frivolous after frivolous court motions. Where did she get the idea she would have a free attorney?

In addition, after 7 years, with one year here, you more than likely won't be ordered to pay any support.

Not sure on the immigration issues (of her or you) [/quote]

Her uncle will finance everything so she does not care. I think I will have to pay her SS since I've been supporting her for last 7 years... Any ideas what would be a reasonable amount?

Her immigration issues are resolved (I am a citizen). [/quote]

You supprted her in a foreihn ciuntry...yhay put a diifferent spin on everything


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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: Yes_Dad]
      #552462 - 07/09/09 10:10 PM

So you think it may be better to hire an attorney and take it to the court hoping I won't be ordered to pay ?

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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: JohannE]
      #552464 - 07/09/09 10:25 PM

She is not a citizen, who is financially responsible for her, who signed??????

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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: Redlegg]
      #552466 - 07/09/09 10:38 PM

I did.

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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: JohannE]
      #552476 - 07/10/09 12:07 AM

Her uncle could fully support her , she would STILL be eligible for public assistance without documented income . IF you sponsered her citizenship , you are on the hook for support for 10 years from the date of sponsorship . It sucks , bite the bullet and negotiate for a reasonable amount , insist on a cohabitation clause and hope she remarries soon .

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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: JohannE]
      #552488 - 07/10/09 08:02 AM

If you signed to support her, then you signed to support her. I don't see a question here. You are a citizen and you brought in a person from another country. You agreed to sponsor her and be financially responsible for her.

Now you want out of the marriage and you want an uncle OR THE TAX PAYER to support someone YOU signed to bring to this country????

Give me a break! This has nothing to do with divorce. You agreed to sponsor an immigrant to get them into this country...now you are on the hook to honor the contract you signed!

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Re: Spousal support estimate: married 7 years: CT [Re: 1966Gal]
      #552506 - 07/10/09 09:34 AM

[quote]If you signed to support her, then you signed to support her. I don't see a question here. You are a citizen and you brought in a person from another country. You agreed to sponsor her and be financially responsible for her.

Now you want out of the marriage and you want an uncle OR THE TAX PAYER to support someone YOU signed to bring to this country????

Give me a break! This has nothing to do with divorce. You agreed to sponsor an immigrant to get them into this country...now you are on the hook to honor the contract you signed! [/quote]

Male or female, I think that whole law sucks. You know as well as I it will come down to the tax payer. When your ancestors or mine came, there wasn't anyone gaurenteeing anything. They should be let in unless they have the skills neccessary to make it on their own.


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