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dontcallmemaam
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When the woman makes more money than the man..
      #558920 - 07/25/09 03:13 AM

Tell me what you think...
The wife has been a stay home mom for the last 5 years since the child was born, the child starts school and now the wife is back to work and just happens to make more money than the husband. The husband still works the same job as before with the same schedule and daily routine. Do you think the husband should now participate more in the raising of the child, the household chores and all the other tasks the wife did when she was the stay home mom? Also if you believe that he should would it make a difference if she made less than he did?


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Re: When the woman makes more money than the man.. [Re: dontcallmemaam]
      #558955 - 07/25/09 09:14 AM

I see nothing wrong with splitting the house hold chores
as a mater of fact I think it is they way things should be
some would argue with that statement but the fact is our kids watch our every move, how we approach situations, and how we handle ourselves in day to day life...

so why not split the house work. if for nothing more then to teach you kids good solid life lessons

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Re: When the woman makes more money than the man.. [Re: losingfaith]
      #558956 - 07/25/09 09:22 AM

So she goes to work, the same amount of time you are, and she is just supposed to add that work load on top of everything she did before. Nahhhhh, help out, make it a joint effort and it all works. That much more money coming into the household should allow you to create a nice cushion, some savings, etc.

No question, you both bring money in, you both help out where and when you can. I would think there was some help goiing on before anyways, so this will just be some more.


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Re: When the woman makes more money than the man.. [Re: Redlegg]
      #559198 - 07/27/09 02:13 AM

This is why my marriage ended, my husband didn't feel the need to help out since he said it was my decision to go back to work. We have two other children besides the one I stayed home with, one of them from my first marriage I wasn't able to stay home with the first two because I couldn't afford to because I was single.
I ended the marriage because he wasn't going to change since it felt like I was doing everything anyways I mine as well be by myself. I wasn't interested in someone who thought all he had to do was submit a paycheck every two weeks.
It has been 4 1/2 years, I am still single and he now has a girlfriend which he
has had two more children with. His girlfriend doesn't work, maybe she should because he can't afford to pay child support for the children we have together. But that's ok because he says I don't need the help, I make enough money.
Sorry, I know this is a forum about saving marriages, even though we aren't divorced yet there's no way this marriage can be saved. I guess I just needed to vent.


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Re: When the woman makes more money than the man.. [Re: dontcallmemaam]
      #559204 - 07/27/09 06:29 AM

It has been 4 1/2 years, I am still single and he now has a girlfriend which he
has had two more children with. His girlfriend doesn't work, maybe she should because he can't afford to pay child support for the children we have together. But that's ok because he says I don't need the help, I make enough money.
Sorry, I know this is a forum about saving marriages, even though we aren't divorced yet there's no way this marriage can be saved. I guess I just needed to vent.


It is not always about saving marriages, so no worries. But that stastement above is almost scary. get divorced, actually be single, and move on with your life. he has a girlfriend and two new children, I am guessing there is no way this marriage will ever be made whole again.


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Re: When the woman makes more money than the man.. [Re: Redlegg]
      #559233 - 07/27/09 08:11 AM

yeah that's messed up
he should have helped
no excuse in the world can justify behavior like that

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