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CrushedNSide
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I need help
      #579700 - 09/20/09 12:49 PM

My wife is aggressive when she gets pissed off and she has hit me before lately she has been aiming for the face and hit me a couple of times I have threatened to call the cops but I never do because I love her so much. I have a huge anger problem but when it comes to her or any other female I will never hit them. I told her once she is lucky she is my wife and a woman because if she was male I would have hit her back. What should I do next time she swings on my the cops were called once at an auto shop when she hit me there the only reason why she was not arrested was because I begged them not to. I need advice what should I do I'm getting tired of putting up with it. Should i call the cops and have her arrested?

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cyber_green1
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Re: I need help [Re: CrushedNSide]
      #579897 - 09/21/09 12:49 AM

sorry to say in my opion if anyone hits you they should not get away with it and although it may be a deal breaker(end of marrige) I would not let them get away with it, once they start it is a sign of abuse and you might be a big gorilla and the other a fawn but abuse is abuse and not to taken lightly, my soon to be ex started the same on me and then claimed i hit her put bruises on her arm and had a restraining order on me just to get me out of the house, it was her plan all along she would pick the fight then claim the victum.watch out protect yourself.

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javajunkiee
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Re: I need help [Re: CrushedNSide]
      #580174 - 09/21/09 02:54 PM

Yes. Call the cops and have her arrested.

You are not protecting her by letting her get away with this. You're allowing her to continue about her life without treatment for the sickness she has.

If she's held accountable for her actions she's much more likely to get help. At the very least, she'll be much more likely to think twice before she lays a hand on you again.

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Re: I need help [Re: javajunkiee]
      #580766 - 09/23/09 12:24 AM

There is a stigma for a man to say he is being abused by a smaller woman though. That would also make men hiesitant to file charges. Plus, what do you do if the police take a look at the sizes and simply right it off as not an issue since she isnt big enough to hurt him.

Its kind of ironic that in another post here on this forum,I read how some people said it was not abuse if a man "blocked" a blow from a woman and got hit in the arm. There is a big double standard here. If a woman blocked a blow from a man and he hit her arm and she said he hit her arm, would they consider it abuse or a "blocked blow" and therefore didnt matter?

IMO you definitely need to do something. But just like men are often made to leave a house when the police show up at a domestic dispute, you may be told you have to leave even though she is doing it. In otherw words, dont expect it to go as you would think it should when you do report her. Maybe I am just being cynical today.


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