joeny12985
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ok soryy for the poor writing i'll try to do my best to keep my mistakes to a min. With that said here's my story my background from my point of view.
So my wife and i meet over 4 years ago. i left my homeotwn my friends everything with just a tool box and clothes( i'm a mechianc at heart.) i moved into her dads house. we lived there for prob a month if that. we moved into our first place,. we have moved two more times since then we have had 3 places that have been ours. we have been married for 2 years now.
well me still bing youn i think i'm 24 i didn't make the best decisions and messed up. I cheated lied i think i did everything but hit her to treat her wrong. I'm sure there's other thing you guys could think of. either way i wasn't perfect. But either was she because of what i did she was controling,. but i was ok with it. because i love her and i still wanted to be married. At one point i was depressed and i just hoped in my car and left. she knew i wanted to do it. she sat here for prob a week tryin everything she could. anything i wanted she tryed to give me. Even with that i left. for 2 weeks to see some girl i thought i like. I wasn't happy sory i messed up. well i came back for valitines say. i washome for prob a week and i left again i went to my parents house. i was down there for a few months. we talk abd tryed to work things out,. finially for easter she conviced me to come back, I wanted to come back from the beging but i wasn't happy. Well we both promised to change. well we didn't either one did what we promise to a tee. but we r not perfect. Well i sit here today know i did the best and i tryed hard to do what was asked. I prob could of tryed harder but i didn't. Now she didnb't tell em she wanted a divorse till 2 weekends ago,. when she left me up in ny with a broken car that actually left me stranged theh day she came back. she didnt' even make it home and had to turn around to pick me up. that wasyet again another mistake on my part. I promise you will think i'm a messed up person. but i have been. and now that i know that i'm trying to do the best i can to fix it. she is tellin me i have to go.but if i leave now she is going to throw in my face that i left everything here for her to deal with. but if i stay and try to finish things and do what i can to help her.(i don't wnat a divorse) she is going to go crazy. I don't knwo what to do now. all i want out of this marriage is to do the best i can to save it, if i can and if i can't i want to know i did everything i could to save it. Now i can not change what i did but i can not do it to her or to another female latter down the road. But all i want right now is her. SHE wants me to fix her car, get my stufff, see her son once in a while talk to him. but she isn't willin to help me at all. which i understand but if she doesn't want to help then i need to do what i need to do. i told her you want me to do then tell me i did the best i can. but she can't just say it she needs to meant it. if she wants a divorse i'll give it to her,. i can't force her to stay i don't want to. if you ahve any questions then ask them if your going to repsobnd with i'm getting what i desrive then please don't wait the engery or mussle move it. i already know that. and i agree. but marriage is about forgiving and being happy with what ever situation you r in. so please it's not going to change my mins. i know i messed up and i know i can't fix it,. but i want to know that i'm doing my best for her to know. my main quetion is when do i stop helpin her and help my self first. do i wait till the divorse to start that one and struggle all the way though because i'm willing to do that.
so that's my story and help you think you can give me i will take. adivce help miving help nto moving anything. i'm so lost and i have nothing at the end of the day. but i don't care i'm doing the best i can.
Edited by joeny12985 (10/23/09 03:02 AM)
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ILMimi
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Divorce her. She deserves better and you need to grow up.
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AloneInTheDark
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If this was a long term marriage, 10 years plus, i would say you two should get over your early midlife crisis, grow up and live up to your wedding vowels. But with less then 5 years married, ILMimi might have it right.
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