fivepointedstar
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Like most people, I've got a long story, but I'll try to make it short.
I am and always have been the CP. We were never married and our son is now 14. We don't have and never have had a parenting plan on file. My son's father is a pretty involved dad (even though he has chosen to live out of state in the past) and we've been pretty capable of figuring it out as we go, with only the occasional bump in the road every 2-3 years or so.
Looks like we've got a big bump coming.
I'm unemployed and have been since July. I applied for food stamps which got the ball rolling for formal child support enforcement. He's not happy.
I work in a very specialized, localized niche. I'm hoping to get a job where I am, but it doesn't look good. The best possibility is in another city about 3 hours away, just on the other side of the state line. Right now we live about an hour away from each other.
I know that if I get this job and decide to relocate he'll fight me on it. I'm wondering if there is anything I can/should do right now to address the situation or if I need to wait until I am offered a job. NCP has said that he'll just keep appealling until I have no choice but to refuse the job offer and continue to stay where I am, unemployed.
Advice?
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googledad
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As with anything else , it will depend on the state you live in .
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Maury
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You would have no real basis to seek to relocate if you did not have a job that was offerred. Courts will not speculate on things that may occur.
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fivepointedstar
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I'm wondering if I should look to get a parenting plan in place that stipulates how far the CP can move away, since we don't have anything in place now. I just don't want to get into a situation where I end up having to turn down a job because a legal battle is pending, only to find out it would have been perfectly fine for me to go. Time could become a factor and I'm just wondering if it would be in my interests to get things going now.
FWIW, we're in Washington state. NCP is in Seattle, the potential job is in Portland. I suppose if it came down to it I could live on this side of the state line, but it would make for a nasty daily commute.
Is there somewhere online that goes through what the courts take into consideration when deciding something like this? Does the age of the child, educational opportunities, relationship with siblings, etc. play a part in the court's decision?
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dad2167
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i am a dad with an ex wife who has been in 2 physical altercations with her new husband in the past 2 yrs with my daughter present. 90% of the time they have a great home life. its the 10% that scares me. in court how much will the 90% matter? he has an extensive past with drug issues and got out of rehab a few months ago. He fell off the wagon a couple weeks ago and they had an altercation. Of course everythingis fine now and has been since that night. i only allow my daughte to be there for a few hrs after school right now. what should i do?
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BeachBabeRN
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dad, start a new thread.
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