philivey
member
Reged: 11/10/09
Posts: 126
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I my wife and I met in June. We got married in August and are expecting a baby.
It's tax season. She told me when we met she was a nurse. Well, I just found out what her real job was. She was an exotic dancer. Yea, guys, you might think it's COOL but no. When we were dating she would tell me that she had to work late taking care of an elderly woman when she really was going to the club to hustle men for dough.
I feel so utterly betrayed. It's difficult to get over it and it's just another reason on top of the domestic abuse to just get a divorce.
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amazing
member
Reged: 09/18/09
Posts: 166
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what a nightmare? I wish you well. Tying the knot is such a scary thing, you think you marry the right person and turns out to be betrayal. It hurts terrible. I hope you sort things out. ~
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alrietto
journeyman
Reged: 01/05/10
Posts: 92
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I would file for divorce right away if I were you. Leave her and never look back.
Here is my story:
The thing that bothers me the most, is that 4 years ago I was looking for a WIFE. Instead I wasted 3 years of my life on a NARCISSISTIC PSYCHOPATH PROSTITUTE immigrant.
It is so DISGUSTING!!!
She knew she is a narcissist. She knew she has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). I know she knew she is a narcissist. She told me. Her comment was: “One day I am going to change from one day to another, out of the blue, and I will turn into something else and I will be really bad. This is who I am.”
She was fully informed of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) so she would do and say anything in order for me to marry her, and then build the grounds for her to accuse me of Domestic Violence knowing that she would not need to prove anything.
There is a law in this country called Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Under this law a woman can simply claim that she is a domestic violence victim and she gets all the help she needs: Housing, Legal, Psychological, Medical, Employment and Immigration papers to stay in this country…
So basically she PROSTITUTED herself to me for 3 entire years just so I would marry her. I feel so DISGUSTED by this…
What in reality happened was as follows: As soon as we got married she began the process of destroying and sabotaging everything around and between us. She created a conflict between her children and me by making her children walk with her on a regular basis telling them that I would not let her use the car. She did that so that they would fully cooperate when the time came to accuse me in front of the police and get to a shelter.
She had a problem though because she got accepted to the shelter, but when she got there she had no proof of any violence on my part because there hadn’t been any. What they do in this case (the woman and the shelter) is they utilized legal help paid for by the Federal Government as VAWA grants to write a petition for a Temporary Protective Order against me.
It is so DISGUSTING!!!
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Reference: bellia66 Martha Laura Granados
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sour
newbie
Reged: 08/30/07
Posts: 37
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Well a courtship of 2 months does not get to really know a person does it? What did she say when you found out? Maybe she was embaressed by her job? there seems like more to the story such as you mentioned domestic violence.
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myheart
enthusiast
Reged: 05/21/09
Posts: 213
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It is hard ot say sometime how long will it be enough to know a person. Some people just too good in being dishonest and you can't tell the difference. I knew my ex for 10 months before getting married, and thought he was a true gentleman, and soon I found he lied here he lied there, then many times he old me, well you didn't ask that specific question, this is why I didn't bother to share. It is just do painful to see a person who sware to be honest and open about everything about him and I did the same, and found out he hid many imprtant things about himself and his family, which would have shade light on his after marriage behaviour... But it all depend how much this person is important to you. I am sure you will make decision based on that, like I forgave him on his lies, even though I felt betrayed from my heart. But offcourse everything cought up evantually...
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