Kirby03
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In my other topic I told you about my wife not sending me BAH, well I told her she could send me it or I would contact her unit. Today, two days before I was to move back to WI into the house the BAH was going towards she tells me that her parents have moved out all of her stuff and ALL of our stuff that we received while together, including wedding gifts.
All that remains is things I had before we were married and she says that this is completely legal, she also had her name taken off our lease so only I remain on it. She says good luck trying receive BAH now and that her unit is looking forward to and expecting a call from me sarcastically.
WTF do I do now!? I'm completely blindsided by this!
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Redlegg
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You will have an answer shortly. Do not even worry about her threats.
Are you sure she is deployed, she seems to have a lot of time on her hands. Ok, just kidding....
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Kirby03
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Haha yes she is, she's just turned her family against me. It was bad enough being harassed by her father over text messages but now I have the responsibility of the entire rent, no BAH support and all of "our" things are now in her chosen storage unit.
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Miranda
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I'd call the police and go to the parents home and get my things. They have no right to take or hold marital property. Why don't you give them a call.
Call her bluff. Call her unit and tell them you need her to send you the BAH according to whatever army reg it is.
File for divorce tomorrow.
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Redlegg
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I am guessing she was told if there is no zip code or maybe even no BAh then she is off the hook. Oh well. The regulation states that she is to give you an amount equal to the BAH. It doesn't have to be if she gets BAH, or the BAH, just an amount equal to the BAH. She wants to play games. Just as Miranda said, you call the unit. There should be a local rear D. you can contact, if you cannot, then you can email her unit directly. If you have problems with that, let me know.
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Kirby03
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Ok I will contact them today, along with checking into whether putting our marital property in storage was legal. I just don't understand how she could get her name off a joint lease!? I also found out that she put our joint checking account into the negative so I have to go to Wisconsin today, close the checking account and attempt to get out of the lease.
*sigh*
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Miranda
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She may have been able to break the lease due to the Sailor Solider Act, but i don't know how they could keep you on it without notifying you or something-especially if you are not living there. Do you know the land lord?
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Kirby03
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Well I had my name taken off of the joint checking account today, along with moving my stuff out of the WI apartment. Not only did her family take her stuff and our marital stuff, but they took a majority of MY things. Old game systems shot glasses, clothes to name a few.
I talked to the landlord about the lease and she's flipping out trying to figure out what's going on, she just found out today that my wife was trying to break the lease so I'll find out what's going to happen within the next few days.
I called her unit and just like my wife sarcastically told me, they were waiting. The Sgt at her unit who stayed back that I talked to played dumb and pretended like he didn't see and BAH going to her and that he hasn't heard of it being required to go to me. I asked for contact info on the Commander and he wouldn't give me any, all he would do is take my email addy and have the Commander get a hold of me.
I knew he was lying and went ahead and contacted a lawyer. The guy was recently in Iraq, worked as a JAG and is an O-5 whatever that means. He scoffed when I told him how it went with her unit and said that he would be the one telling that Sgt how the regulations went being as he severely outranked him.
Hopefully he will be able to fight for me, I'm sick of feeling helpless.
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english7
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Keep trying, Kirby. I've been through those hoops. It helps to keep insisting. Sometimes their game is to just keep you quiet and hope you go away and shut up. You might not get very far, but keep trying. And listen to Redlegg. He will give you good advice. Hang in there, man.
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Redlegg
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Make sure you keep a record of all the people you talk to.
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