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kylen
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girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop
      #667043 - 06/10/10 12:55 PM

my guy and i have been dating for approx 2.5 years he has been divorced right at 3 yrs...he has a minor dautgher who refers to me as Nanny and as far as she is concerned we are just friends..we have a great relationship the three of us and i also know his ex, the childs mother...i sleep over but NEVER with him when his daughter is there. when she is there i sleep in the daughters room and manny time she sleeps with me.. i would not disrespect a child in that way i have 2 of my own.. recently my guy asked his daughter how would she liked it if i became his girlfriend she was sooooooo excited and stated that she didn't mind if we got married...so finally after 3 years we are officially out of the closet where his daughter is concerned..what a relief that has been... the problem now is the ex told me and him she will put a stop to me sleeping over when the daughter is there fully know that i have been sleeping ther and also not sleeping with him its a moral issue with me and him... can she actually stop this even though it has been going on for some time and she knew about it, had no problem with, she can also verify via the daughter that is do not sleep with him when she is there..can she legally stop me from sleeping over and the two of them sleeping at my home??????

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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: kylen]
      #667044 - 06/10/10 01:00 PM

Is there a cohabitation clause in their CO that states your bf can have no overnight guests when the child is with him?

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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: JennyLynn]
      #667045 - 06/10/10 01:03 PM

no they dont even have visitation set up the daughter goes between parent as she wants and she is with us most every weekend her being with us is not a problem i welcome it

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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: kylen]
      #667047 - 06/10/10 01:04 PM

There is nothing BM can do about it if there is no court order or without a cohabitation clause in the court order.

Just curious, how old is his daughter? Do your children live with you? Do you plan on moving in together?


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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: JennyLynn]
      #667048 - 06/10/10 01:07 PM

she is 9 and the 2 children i am speaking of are my x step grand children who i am very close with and have every other weekend and consider my own... if she cant stop it now she can bring him to court to get this added ??? correct

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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: JennyLynn]
      #667049 - 06/10/10 01:08 PM

and no we don't plan on moving in together any time soon...

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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: kylen]
      #667050 - 06/10/10 01:08 PM

She could take him to court to get a court order and visitation schedule, but it would be up to a judge to decide whether or not a cohabitation clause was entered in.

Were they ever married? Do they not have any court order or visitation schedule filed with the courts? How often does he have his daughter?


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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: kylen]
      #667051 - 06/10/10 01:10 PM

Unfortunately no, she probably can't. I wish she could though. I'm not sure you sleeping in the child's bedroom with her is any better than sleeping over with your boyfriend. I know as a mother, I'd be MORTIFIED to discover that. You're an adult for crying out loud. If his daughter is there, why do you have to sleep over; how about you go HOME to your own children?

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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: JennyLynn]
      #667052 - 06/10/10 01:11 PM

they are divorced and there is no order of visitation in place.. the divorce was easy and where the daughter is concerned she stays with her mom or goes with her dad as she wants to where everything is concerned even our relationship it is all about the daughter and protecting her memtally and emotionally.. divorce is hard enough on kids without added stress she is with us mos weekends and many time during the week

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Re: girlfriend sleeping over... can the ex wife stop [Re: Avaya]
      #667054 - 06/10/10 01:13 PM

Well lucky for THEM they have their own lives and can make their own choices based on THEIR standards, not yours.

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