alrietto
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I had an opinion of U.S. immigration laws and procedures before I met the Mexican immigrant that abused and falsely accused me. I always thought that that U.S. immigration laws were not fair, too difficult, too complicated, discriminating to a point of being abusive.
I always envisaged immigrants of any type as victims of the U.S. immigration laws. I do understand and agree about the need to control and regulate immigration. The United States cannot simply allow anyone to immigrate to this country. While regulating immigration both the needs of this country, fairness and ethics must be maintained.
No matter what type of immigration procedure an immigrant goes through he or she will find that the immigration process is extremely stressful and takes its toll on immigrants in many ways: financial, time consumption, mental stress and emotional pain. In many cases the burden of the immigration process alone will cause crises in families, the workplace and other areas.
I believe that one of the greatest factors that pushes these unscrupulous women to manipulate VAWA and make false accusations against their husbands is definitely the unfairness of U.S. immigration laws. It is obvious that while immigration is complicated and costly, and at the same time there exists a loophole that we all know VAWA provides, there is a great incentive for an immigrant woman to take the low road of manipulating VAWA and making false accusations against her husband.
Nevertheless, the woman that decides to immigrate to the United States at any cost and plans to do anything in order to get a marriage certificate with the U.S. citizen including lying, deceiving, seducing and prostituting herself is not a person with a healthy mind. Only a very sick woman with a major personality disorder such as a sociopath or a psychopath would deliberately plan to deceive another person, making him believe that she truly loves him up until the point that he agrees to marry her and then immediately begin to sabotage their relationship (if you can call it a relationship) and proceeds with the false accusations of domestic violence against him, move to a VAWA shelter and file a self-petition with the U.S. immigration selfishly accusing the very same person who loves her and helps her of a crime he never committed.
I have been asking myself repeatedly who owns the primary blame for this terrible injustice. On one hand it is obvious that the unscrupulous woman is abusing a system that has been created with the best intentions. On the other hand these women would have never come up with their diabolic plans to deceive an American citizen, to pretend to love them and want to be their wives but then falsely accuse them of a crime they never committed unless there was a law, VAWA that provided them with a loop-hole for quick and easy immigration to the United States.
I believe that what we see here is a combination of a very sick law formulated by a very sick women which is being abused by other very sick women. There are many other organizations were sick people help other sick people and there is nothing wrong with that. To mention a couple there is Alcoholics Anonymous and Emotions Anonymous. But those organizations do not receive grants from the Federal government and they are not involved in accusing anyone or helping anyone with their legal status in this country.
What I perceive to be the major issue with VAWA is first the law itself and the way it is worded. In addition the fact that people make their living depending on how many people they accuse is a major issue. What makes things worse is the fact that the people behind the execution of the law are women who has suffered, or claim to have suffered from abuse, either way mentally unhealthy women.
The situation that VAWA created in our society is that in many cases when VAWA is invoked a major destruction occurs, the destruction of a family, the destruction of the husband and the destruction of an innocent American citizen who merely wanted to help the foreign woman.
The obvious conclusion that I think any reasonable person would come to is that VAWA must be either fixed or completely abolished. Anyone who witnessed the destruction caused by the injustice that is enabled by VAWA would surely agree that this cannot be continued and need to be amended urgently.
I appeal to a your sense of ethics, values and integrity and respectfully ask you to help and assist in amending and fixing VAWA in order to put an end to the destruction and injustice that is currently being inflicted on innocent American citizens.
Thank you.
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Ref: Martha Laura Granados bellia66 Martha Granados (DOB 11/14/1966)
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almostheaven
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O.....M......G!!!!!!!!!!
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alrietto
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almostheaven, did you read it?
Are you going to help?
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BeachBabeRN
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AH? I got you covered --
Dude -- AH has her own issues to deal with that far eclipse yours. You continually post the same dreck all over the net and no one really cares past the first time.
There's an element of choice here -- you CHOSE your wife. You CHOSE your life path.
GET OVER IT.
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finz
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There is an organization called Emotions Anonymous ?
Isn't everyone SUPPOSED to have emotions ?
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Contour
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Getting a divorce is not that hard.
The cost can vary, but I know if my ex and I afforded it then most anyone can. $150 something filing fee, fill out some paperwork, it is done.
My ex and I - we agreed on all terms, paid the $155 court filing fee, did a few other things, it all took less than a month and we have our lives back.
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almostheaven
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The kind of help you need can't be found here. Try place with padded walls.
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almostheaven
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That's an "agreed" divorce. Getting one where both parties do not agree can cost tens of thousands and drag on for years.
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alrietto
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[quote="PeterPiper"]Wow. I am just bowled over by these stories. I cannot believe the meanness and selfishness of some people. ...Btw I haven't been married to a foreigner but I really feel for guys in this position. It's a terrible way to be treated by someone you care/cared about.[/quote]Yes. It is a terrible trauma to care for someone, help her and then realize that you have been used, abused and now you are being falsely accused.
Some obvious conclusions can be made:
1. NEVER marry a foreign person who may want a green Card. Especially you guys - NEVER marry a foreign woman. DON'T EVER bring her to this country on a fiancé visa.
2. If there is no other way and you are willing to take the substantial risk VAWA imposes, make sure there is a Pre-Nupt that is so strong that you can remove your foreign spouse from your place of residence immediately when trouble start. If such a Pre-Nupt is not possible, DON'T marry her/him.
3. Make sure that she/he would suffer a substantial loss if they start trouble. If you are willing to take the substantial risk VAWA imposes and marry her anyway, make her give you something valuable, money, real-estate, bonds, stock... that you would return over a few years. Make her pay for your vehicles and register them in your name. Make her pay for the right you are giving her to falsely accuse you for the Green Card. It is up to you to determine how much it is worth to you.
4. Make police reports about her/him. No matter what she/he does or doesn't do, go to the police station and make complaints about her/him. She doesn't have to know about it. Tell them she/he is mentally ill, abusive, parasite, depressed, lazy - anything you can think of. Keep copy of these reports with you so that you can show them to the police when trouble starts.
5. Continuously think about the worst possible thing she/he can do and what you can do to prevent it and defend yourself from it. Be proactive. Create a situation where if she/he starts trouble she/he will hurt herself/himself much more than they will hurt you.
6. Just as soon as you see a change in behvior, attitude, expression, as soon as some strange things begin to occur, immidiately remove her/him from you residence. If that is not possible, remove yourself and start legal procedings to remove her/him from you residence.
7. Remeber that even though you love her/him and even when she/he says that she/he loves you, she/he may be lying, deceiving and prostituting themselves to you for the sole purpose of getting a Green Card. Don't forget for a minute about the very big chance that she/he is willing to cause you a great deal of damage in order to achieve their own selfish goal.
Good luck to you with your next relationship with an immigrant.
- Al
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alrietto
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The VAWA immigration loop-hole:
The formula is simple: Pretend you're in love with someone, get them to marry you, then, a few months later start making unsupported accusations of abuse. The accusations will stick, even if completely unsupported by facts. In no time they're on the path to permanent residency and with plenty of help from US taxpayers. As you can see from the many stories in this forum, the innocent US spouse often pays a heavy price in terms of psychological distress, legal bills, damage to reputation, and in many cases even a criminal record.
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When I filed for divorce (and as you remember she and her sons lived in my house for three years and I took care of them and their medical issues... multiple surgeries and much more while she, Martha was a true parasite using and abusing me and at the same time planning to falsely accuse me... yes, that was her plan from before we even met) and to my surprise she immediately was looking for a VAWA shelter, and one VAWA shelter accepted her, and a couple of weeks later she made the false accusation in court, she made a petition for a TPO that was dismissed very quickly by the judge, and everybody that I talked to was telling me the same thing:
Multiple lawyers: She is falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
Priests and pastors: She is falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
Her sister: She is falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
Her brother-in-law: She is falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
Her first husband (the guy who really beat her): She is falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
Immigrant women and men (illegal): She is falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
USCIS (when I did the info-pass): She is falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
Martha herself (after the VAWA shelter had accepted her): I am falsely accusing you in order to have proof for a VAWA self-petition
You see, everybody knows what's going on. Everybody knows that these women get themselves into sham marriages and at the same time plan on falsely accusing the poor innocent American citizen husband who had married them for love and an honest intention to sponsor them for a Green Card, and is being re-paid with false accusation and his life being destroyed.
So, what do you call a person that pretends to be nice, pretends to love some-one and at the same time plans on hurting that person?
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These women engage in sham marriages with a plan in mind:
These immigrant women are looking for a Legal Permanent Resident or an American Citizen to seduce, deceive, lie to... whatever it takes so that he would marry them, and at the same time they plan to falsely accuse him and do a VAWA self-petition.
Some of these women, after acting and pretending to be so nice... to be the perfect wives... after using and abusing for sometimes a long period of time... after finally getting him to sign the marriage, immediately begin to instigate violence, to provoke, to seduce other men, to cheat on their husbands with other men...
I know. It happened to me!!!
What do you call a person that pretends to be nice and at the same time plans to hurt you... and is only concerned about her own gratification?
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The idea is and always was: If a woman is engaged in a true and honest marriage with a US citizen, then she is entitled to live with him in the US, and he is entitled to petition her for a Green Card... as long as the marriage is honest and stable.
By creating a loop-hole... by having a law, VAWA that allows and creates an incentive for immigrant women to falsely claim abuse without requiring any proof... that grants federal funds to VAWA shelters who engage in instructing immigrant women on how to manipulate the legal system... on how to manipulate the American support systems... on how to manipulate the American immigration system, the consequences are that honest American citizens lose respect for their own legal system and their own government...
... and more immigrants learn to use, abuse, manipulate and destroy the systems and the citizens of this country.
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