Abandoned_QC
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Loc: Montreal, Quebec
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Two months ago my husband (de facto spouse, there is no common law in Quebec) abandoned me out of nowhere. It's called Wife Abandonment Syndrome. You can read more about this on [url=[censored]://runawayhusbands.com]Runaway Husbands[/url] He left out of the blue (while he was still telling me and showing me that he loved me) so it came as a total shock. He has been "taking care" of me for 2.5 years now since I closed my boutique. He's 59 and I'm 57. We should have been retiring together! Instead, he retired from his $137,000 a year job and then dumps me. No job, no money, no car, nothing. He has refused to pay any bills so I have been forced to look for a job at 57, I will be putting my house up for sale soon (sitting tight until I get an agreement from him as the condo is in both our names) I will be moving into something smaller and buying a small car when I get the money from the sale of the house. This abandonment is way worse than a couple who is trying to save their marriage and decide to split. It's way worse as the wife has no idea he's not happy, as he has been pretending. The man you love deeply and trust betrays you and you're never the same again.
[color:blue] [/color] I'm not going to allow any man to rob me of one day of my precious life. He didn't deserve me! Besides, not that he's gone, even though I feel lonely lots of times and I cry, I realize that he was sucking the fun out of a lot of things. I'm going through things because I can't go around. I will come out of the end of the tunnel whole. You need to start making some plans. WRite down some affirmatives (go online and get the ones you like), say them every day and get your @$$ in gear! Living well is the best revenge! Are there any more of you out there???? Let's get together and help each other move forward.
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sweetbrownie
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yes I was aandonment we made he kept telling me he love me until that morning he ask what was my plan for the day. I Cme home ro find out he left with everything said nothing until to day. his bestfriend tell me to let go and become free. hw stop paying the bills and communicating with the family.
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EndofRope
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My ex-husband left me 2 weeks after we moved into a new house in the middle of nowhere. I found messages, pictures, etc. on his phone. We were planning a second child- he even had is vasectomy reversed so we could conceive- and then left me for a woman at work. That morning he had kissed me goodbye as always, called me during the day and on his way home. A week earlier we celebrated our eighth anniversary and he bought me a beautiful ring and a wrote me a long love letter. The moment I caught him a switch flipped and he told me he never really loved me and it was all a lie. It's been three years now, and my daughter and I still struggle. I'm in school full-time and we live on $200 a week. All those years were a lie. I still hurt. i had such a beautiful marriage, yet it was all a charade. He was an excellent actor. I'm trying to move on, but the pain stays with me every day. I don't know how i will ever truly recover.
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lynnramsoto
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Thank you for the website! I didn't know this was an actual syndrome! Does there come a time where the men finally say, wow... I really messed up!!?? I'm sure it does but they will never admit it to us! Oh well, we live and we learn.
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