katiebug8
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Hi there!
I'm new to this forum but I have a question and hopefully can get some good comebacks and/or advice for this situation. My ex husband and I are both remarried (for a year now) and has never ever come to our house to drop/pick up our daughter nor has he ever met my husband. Now...wouldn't you as a dad at least check out the man your daughter is spending 80% of her time with and her new living environment? Yet if my husband happens to be in my car when I am dropping her at his house he doesn't want us pulling in his driveway because he "assumes" this man ruined his marriage and he just can't have that man on his property. Not true but that's another story. I am the one that wanted the divorce and his new wife is having a baby and seriously...does this immaturity ever end? I have a civil relationship with his new wife etc and my husband says why should we respect his driveway power struggle when he never checked where his daughter will be living or has never dropped her off to our house. He has a point so next time we are pulling in his driveway. I mean really...what can he do but whine about it? What would your response be to this immature individual? I've kept the peace for the sake of my daughter but it's gettin old.
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Debi
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No response at all. I would simply not pull in his driverway if it's safe for the child to get to the door without doing so. (meaning as long has he doesn't have a 1/4 miles drive way that the child would have to walk). I'm thinking if it's a neighborhood where there is a curb and you can see the door then why would you not just do it that way? Personally I rarely pull into my ex's driveway because then I have to back out. Seems like a waste of time to me.
Is it a ridiculous request? Yes. Is it controlling? Yes. Is it pointless? Yes. Is it a hill worth dying on? No.
It never ceases to amaze me how many people who are remarried and have suppossedly moved on will play games. My x is married, I am not. His wife and I have become good friends. I'm sure on some level that scares the crap out of him, but I'd rather have it that way than harboring bad feelings after 10 years!
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When we were together, you said you'd die for me. Now, I think it's time you kept your promise.
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yregna
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Loc: Oregon
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Debi,
Why wouldn't two women who like to use men for money NOT be good friends ? Talk about havin' a lot in common...
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Debi
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LOL. You crack me up, Angry. My x, ever make more money than me? Bwwwwaaaaahhhhaaaaaaa. Me have to live off him????? Even better. You should go on tour. No really, I'm serious. You're a freaking riot.
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When we were together, you said you'd die for me. Now, I think it's time you kept your promise.
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MidGround4
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Loc: Houston, Texas
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I don't know why anyone ever responds to xregna ... but that's another subject.
To address Katie: Doesn't your decree require the receiving parent pick up the child? Most do! Why are you doing all the drop offs/pick ups. Most decrees state who drives to pick up or drop off. Implement your decree if it says that he must come get her when it's his turn for possession and let him park in the driveway if you like. Good luck, he sounds like a real winner ... kinda like yregna
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WowJustWow
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Loc: Dallas, TX
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I have a similar problem with my ex wife in that she will not LET me pick up my girls from her boyfriends house that she she is living at but swears they are not dating...but she admittedly cheated on me with him...I'm not angry, but she thinks I'm going to come unglued on him. He's a cop, I'm not. So, she drops the kids off and picks them up here. I actually think it's funny that she won't let me drop off or pick up the kids...shows me how much of a liar and cheat she really is. For the sake if the kids, I don't push the issue too often. I just give her a little nudge every now and again about to to remind her that she did me wrong, yet she can't help but to try to control my life still.
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I'm movin' on,
At last I can see,
Life has been patiently waiting for me...
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