GR8_DAD
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Hello all,
I am the Custodial parent to a 13 y/o going on 14 y/o daughter. NC mother left her when she was 6 then re-appeared when CS was being reviewed when daughter was 9 and left again once CS was settled. I would like to have CS reviewed because, the older children get... the more expensive. Also, I would like for NC parent to provide medical insurance and pay for half of uninsured medical. Also, I would like to request NC mother pay half of college tuition and half of extra curricular activities. I'm looking towards the future for our daughter, and she starts high school next year and I don't want to have her deprived of playing sports or attending college because I cannot afford it on my own. Do you think I have a good chance for increase?
Another thing I wanted to add, is last time we appeared in court we were both given 1 hardship because we had 1 child each from another relationship. She was also claiming she was head-of-household and supported her daughter on her own, when in fact she was and still is living with her children's father and they now have a 2nd child together as do me and my wife. So, my question is, can she be entitled to 2 hardships now, and will they consider her boyfriends income, because is helping her support their children, it's not just her supporting them. NC mother is also attending college. I just don't think it's fair to our daughter that she be deprived, but NC mother is paying for her other children to be in sports. What should I do?! Your advice would be greatly appreciated... thank you!
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hanzblinx
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Very few states have age based formulas for child support, I don't think CA does. As far as medical, that should have been figured 7 years ago when she split. Why is that suddenly up for consideration?
As far as college goes, you are out of your mind. Nobody can deprive a person from going to college. It's a free country. When I turned 18 I worked 25-30 hours a week, got student loans, and took a full load of engineering courses. My parents didnt fund anything. To say that they deprived me of college is just idiotic. I believe in personal responsibility, your daughter should too.
She needs to get a job, it will be good for her. The reason I got a good job right out of college is BECAUSE I worked during college, doing internships. If my parents paid my way, who knows, I could be unemployed today.
Learn personal responsibility, then when you have, teach it to your daughter.
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gr8Dad
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The expense of the children has little to do with what child support is calculated at. It is based on the earnings or earning potential of the NCP in most states. If your ex is not working, you can seek to have her income imputed to what she is CAPABLE of making, and have it based on that. You cannot use her boyfriends income as a determining factor.
College expenses are not included in many states,and in my opinion, shouldn't be.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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GR8_DAD
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[quote]The expense of the children has little to do with what child support is calculated at. It is based on the earnings or earning potential of the NCP in most states. If your ex is not working, you can seek to have her income imputed to what she is CAPABLE of making, and have it based on that. You cannot use her boyfriends income as a determining factor.
College expenses are not included in many states,and in my opinion, shouldn't be. [/quote]
Thank you for your mature response :)
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DedicatedDad
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My parents offered to pay for my college, and when I found out they were taking out a 2nd mortgage for it, I refused it and paid my own way....as it should be.
We shouldn't be creating entitlement monsters...unless you plan on picking up the tab for kid yourself forever.
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hanzblinx
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"just don't think it's fair to our daughter that she be deprived"
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That word "deprived" is just wrong. By that philosophy GR8_DAD deprived me of eating breakfast today because he never showed up at my house with a plate of scrambled eggs. People need to break free of the gimme gimme mindset. Working for what you want is a positive thing. Your daughter deserves a chance to do that when she reaches the age of majority and works her way through college.
Edited by hanzblinx (12/22/11 10:49 AM)
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