Buckeye
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for the openning of presents. Everything went fine.
However, and this is a vent on my part, BM didn't send YS14 a Christmas present (she will send it later). Yeah, right, just like the birthday present she was bringing and then sending. So far, no birthday present yet.
Anybody want to do a road trip with me???
I am so sorry for YS14 but he definitely had it right when he said he was staying with his Dad - he knew where he had it good. I just feel so bad for him because it IS his mother.
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Sherron
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Glad you had a good time for most parts, Buckeye. It's not easy when you see a parent blowing off their child. Life is hard enough, but you're supposed to be able to count on the two people who created you. Ds will be 12 next month, and it's pretty similar for him. It sucks to see and I feel badly for him, especially knowing that this is who I chose for his father. As he is getting older, he sees more and understands that this is not how it's supposed to be. His best friend's parents are divorced, and the boy alternates weeks at each home, so ds knows what could be... and he knows that his father is as involved as he wants to be. He also reads a few of his father's pity parties on FB and doesn't understand how a grown man can mope about people hurting him and how lonely he is... while he's ignoring his own children.
It's hard for me not to let on how badly I really feel for him, especially on special days like Christmas or his birthday. We do frequently talk about family... how this may not be the one we want, but it is the one we have, and that we can let it get us down or we can deal and enjoy life anyway. Right now... he still goes back and forth yet between being down over it and blowing it off, but it seems the down times are getting to be fewer and fewer. He proclaimed this the "best Christmas EVERRRR"... even though his father didn't even bother with a phone call. He had a good Christmas anyway, and that was a better gift to me than the one he bought me.
Sorry, rambling here lol... just wanted to let you know that I understand the feeling... and looks like YS14 has a good head on his shoulders, wanting to stay with his dad. He's blessed to have all of you in his life and I hope he continues to see that.
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ssmom79
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That is sad to hear Sherron. I am glad to hear you were able to give him the love and caring and gifts to give him the best Christmas ever. I love to watch the kids open presents and sit together Doing our annual things like the breakfast casserole.
Glad to hear you had a pretty much drama free Christmas with your family Buckeye. Are you from Ohio...you're not an OSU fan are you?
My brother forgot to send my nephew's present this year. He took it pretty rough. But sometimes my nephew can be a little dramatic. BTW the nephew is my sister's son. My brother is his uncle
Edited by ssmom79 (12/26/11 05:00 PM)
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Redlegg
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Road trip...I'm in...
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Sherron
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"That is sad to hear Sherron. I am glad to hear you were able to give him the love and caring and gifts to give him the best Christmas ever. I love to watch the kids open presents and sit together Doing our annual things like the breakfast casserole."
It is sad... but no one's life is perfect and we all have things that can keep us down if we let them. Ds may have to learn that lesson a little earlier than many other kids... as does Buckeye's YS14. Life is what you make of it, you have a choice here... whether you're 12, 14... or 42.
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Buckeye
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Update, DD and family stopped by today and they had been shopping. SIL gave YS14 his Christmas money so that he could add it to the money he already had and could buy the pair of Jordan's that his mother was supposed to send him for his birthday.
I guess, from this, that neither of them think that he is ever going to see those shoes from his mother.
Anyway, he seemed really pleased with his shoes and could hardly wait to show them to me.
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Sherron
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"I guess, from this, that neither of them think that he is ever going to see those shoes from his mother."
Sounds like that is the reality of it and YS14 knows it. And while it's not what you'd want for him, it looks like he is handling it well... he's accepted that she is who she is, and instead of being upset about what she failed to do or waiting to see if she eventually would, he simply took care of it himself. I'd say he made the best out of a crappy situation, good for him.
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Buckeye
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The sad thing about the whole thing is that he expects her to be different and she sh!ts on him every time.
I just wish he would tell her where to go and how to get there and drop all communication with her. Nothing is ever going to change.
She got the child back she wanted and she only wants contact with him to punish his father - not realizing that she is punishing him instead.
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Tweeby
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Sadly the kids get used to it.
At Thanksgiving my YSS19 and his Mom's family exchanged names, he picked his GM. On Thursday night my YSS gets a call from his Mom, she needs him to give her $100 for Christmas dinner and oh yeah and they need to buy gifts for his older brother's gf son (not my OSS child). It seems that my YSS bought everyone a gift who was there while he didn't get anything. Plus for HIS birthday he got to buy his Mom a pair of shoes. My YSS sort of expects it now and it doesn't seem to faze him. I think it hurts him but he doesn't allow it to show.
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