Runswithscissors
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He sent me 10 text messages.......on how I need to pay him. It was 1,000 to fix. His parents paid 100.00, he paid 900.00......... I paid 635.00 to fix front end...... I did forget he paid 313.00 to fix something and paid 800.00 to put air in her car....(it went out). So....I told him I would pay him half....and moving forward, I will invoice him for half car insurance.....and if he doesn't pay, she will not drive her car to visit him....he can come get her. I also told him I am starting paperwork for child support tomorrow morning and to have a good day. I am not going to be bullied. His ass makes over 200k a year. I made 30k last year. I worked 3 jobs to keep our home, kids clothed and fed.....I never got in the situation of losing our home....but I did go hungry....and I never asked him for a dime. He wants his 400.00, he will get it and it will cost him 2k a month....
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Tweeby
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Do what you feel you have to do. IMO, you should of done this (gone after CS) a long time ago. If he wants you to pay half than he should be paying 1/2 also.
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Cassie23
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Me too. At least then you wouldn't be the only one financially responsible for the daughter you both share. Plus some of those extras CS monies could have gone to your DD's college education fund.
I cannot imagine OP telling me I HAVE to pay for 1/2 of the car repairs when I was never asked PRIOR if I wanted to. Just seems like he wants to split the expenses that come out of his pocket, but not the ones that come out of yours? Ridiculous.
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DedicatedDad
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What is your exact legal/physical custody arrangement, individual incomes and state of residence?
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Avaya
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Good for you! Yay!!!!
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youngatheart
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FANTASTIC!!! I REALLY hope that you are going to follow through and go after child support
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Sherron
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"I also told him I am starting paperwork for child support tomorrow morning and to have a good day. I am not going to be bullied. His ass makes over 200k a year. I made 30k last year. I worked 3 jobs to keep our home, kids clothed and fed.....I never got in the situation of losing our home....but I did go hungry....and I never asked him for a dime. He wants his 400.00, he will get it and it will cost him 2k a month...."
2k a month for cs? Why didn't you file earlier, if nothing else to replace the college fund ex cleaned out? I can understand working multiple jobs to assure a roof over your head and keeping the kids clothed and fed, and I get giving things up yourself to make sure that happens... I'm not sure I understand doing all that when you voluntarily forgo cs while you're struggling to meet basic needs.
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SRS
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Your D deserves to have both parents assist in supporting her. It would make you more available to spend time with her instead of worring about 3 jobs to make ends meet.
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Runswithscissors
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Dedicated Dad, I don't give out that information. I know how to use the CS calculator and I am a GAL.. so I got this.. but thanks alot of asking to help. Sherron, I didn't file before because it wasn't worth the fight with him. I was hoping once I got full custody of her back... the games would be over... I mean.. he is the one that always played them... now that I have full custody.. there has been (0) problems until now... and as I said.. it's a 5 year benchmark... he does something like clockwork every 5 years... When I went for full custody- it was never about the $$. It was about getting our daughter back in HER state with HER family (including his parents). Basic needs were met. By going after CS, it just opened a can of worms I didn't care on doing... why break something if it wasn't broken. For the first time, we were getting along (again, because there were no games played.. I have been the best example of a co-parent mom). I have done everything I can to facilitate their relationship even though she HATES him... SO in my mind.. I just didn't want to mess it up... (our relationship),. Now that he's being a PITA, it's time to do it... remember, he plays games with our daughter... remember he told her all about the "affair" I never had.. etc.. so, if I had just "gone" after him for CS, he would of started all this again..... now is the time to strike... last year, the year before was not.
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Sherron
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You did what you felt you had to to keep the peace, and if peace through acquiescence worked for you and the kids, then more power to you for doing that. I'm not sure I can reconcile "basic needs were met" with going hungry though. I hope your dd is old enough to recognize the games for what they are if he starts again.
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