ssmom79
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SS came home right about curfew, blared the horn, scared me and DH. DH hears some yelling, says something is wrong, goes outside. I wait a few seconds, then get up, get dressed and go outside. I get out there and there is SS and another kid, the kid's truck is parked behind SS, still running and the boys are circling in the street with hubby just standing there....just standing there.
So I'm like WTH is going on here...DH says, this is <kid's name> who's been harassing SS in high school since freshman year. SS always walks away and deals with the taunting because we've threatened to take his truck if he gets suspended. So DH let them duke it out....in the street....in front of my house. I watched in complete horror as this fight went on not knowing what to do, how to separate them. The fight ended when they ended up across the street in a neighbors yard. The other kid got in his truck, called my SS some names, my hubby some names, called us ugly and drove away. **He called me ugly! Listen bucko, it's midnight and I'm in sleep clothes and my hair is a mess. I am not ugly you little turd.**
Would you have separated them? Would you have let them fight? Would you involved authorities or would you let it go?
What hubby did: let them fight, didn't call authorities.
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LeAnne
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Who won?
Sometimes you just have to let them duke it out....male testosterone thing.
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Maury
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Call the police or risk the other side or a neighbor will resulting in a police report and a citation for assault or disorderly conduct.
The fight resolved nothing other than setting the stage for the next one. I am also sure the neighbors appreciated it.
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SRS
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So, this kid followed your SS to your home? Holy crap. That is scary and I would have snapped a picture before calling the police. I also would have called this kid's parents about following my child home.
Allowing them to fight did nothing but set up a future fight in the next few days.
ETA: When dogs fight, I've heard a bucket of cold water will stop things. Drap out the garden hose next time and hose them all down.
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ssmom79
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Oh the other kid got the better of SS. It's wasn't a butt whooping or anything, but he definitely got him. It was kinda traumatizing to me and I didn't sleep well for a few days.
There were no witnesses other than DH and I, the kid and SS.
The other kid is 18 and is fearful we'd call the police and press charges since SS is a minor. I just feel like, um, we let it happen, you can't call the police after you let it happen, watched the kid leave and didn't report it when it happened.
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ssmom79
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SRS, this person's mom has sort of a reputation for being a little crazy. I was in my jammies and didn't have a phone or anything...good thinking about the hose. Totally doing that next time and worst case I can run away and still be spraying them cause I got a really long sprayer.
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Tweeby
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Personally, I would of broken the fight up, not by getting inbetween them but by telling them to stop and if they don't than the police will be involved.
I don't allow fist fighting around me. I know the kids do fist fight but no reason *I* personally have to witness it. I'm also of the 'don't ask don't tell policy' when it comes to fighting. If I see evidence of a fight I ask if they are ok or if they need any attention (bleeding, brusising, etc...) and deal with it accourdingly. I don't want to know what the fight was about or who 'won'. My boys have learned how NOT to show evidence on the faces because then they may get into trouble with me if we had plans on going out in public. I get upset with the kids if I have to take a bruised and cut up kid some place.
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Cassie23
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The other kid is 18 and is fearful we'd call the police and press charges since SS is a minor. I just feel like, um, we let it happen, you can't call the police after you let it happen, watched the kid leave and didn't report it when it happened.
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I would have called the police- for me that would have been instinct.
I would have also considered spraying them with a hose? I don't know!! What do you do? I think my Mom broke up a fight once with a broom?
Last year a bunch of neighborhood kids were playing ball and one kid started chasing another with a long thick stake. I went out there and got in the middle of it- to stop it. Luckily they listened to me, but by the time I got out there, there wasn't much contact beforehand. I calmed them down and that was that.
People always say once two boys duke it out, they get over it within days. I just hope that this is the end of it.
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Cassie23
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ETA: When dogs fight, I've heard a bucket of cold water will stop things. Drap out the garden hose next time and hose them all down.
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This is why I wrote this. That is the only way, the few times my two dogs have gotten into it, to separate them. I also remembered ssmom lives in the south so your hose is workable during the Winter :)
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Cassie23
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**He called me ugly! Listen bucko, it's midnight and I'm in sleep clothes and my hair is a mess. I am not ugly you little turd.**
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I'm sure you still weren't even close to ugly!!
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