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KentuckySm
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#778475 - 02/27/12 10:49 AM

Well my Dh filed for custody of his boys that we have had here full time since Oct. Court was today. BM did show up in court, DH lawyer was there for him. Judge granted DH request to stop childsupport and to make his home primary. The judge did appoint a GAL and they have already talked to her. Gal wants to speak with the children. DH is upset but understands. He was really wanting to protect them from the whole situation. What can he expect the Gal to talk to the children about? SS 11 wants to be with mom but is the same breath will say he knows she can not take care of them very well. SS9 wants to be here and has for years. SS7 not sure want he wants. He is soo delayed that the school and us are still trying to get him where he will communicate better. And how should DH explain to the boys why they have to talk to this person. They had no clue he had filed for custody. BM called DH on the day she was served and finally asked to see the boys. She waited a week to go off on him about it. She has been coming off with some crazy stuff. But she worked on them a bit this weekend. SS11 was asking DH if he could at least finish the school year off up here. She told DH that the boys don't want to be up here because they have no friends. ( not true they have their friends from scouts that they have known for 4 years). Sorry for rambling just nervous for DH and I hate to see the boys stressed.

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KentuckySm
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#778505 - 02/27/12 09:19 PM

wow

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M5M5
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#778509 - 02/27/12 10:18 PM

I don't have any experience with GALs, so no advice. I'm keeping ya'll in my prayers...I hate to see kids stressed out over stuff like this :(

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Debi
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#778510 - 02/27/12 10:37 PM

I can understand your h wanting to protect them, but this doesn't have to be a stressful thing for them. I think it's ok for them to know that their dad wanted to have custody. Especially if they know that their mom can't take care of them now.

I doubt the GAL will recommend that the kids go back to mom, even if that's what the 11 yo wants. In my experience i don't think a GAL will even ask children this age. They will probably ask things like "What do you do at your dad's house? Tell me about your friends, your school, your activities. Do dad and SM help you with your homework?" And then ask them to tell him/her about the time they spend with mom. It will more than likely be an encouraging situation and the GAL won't make negative comments about either parent to the boys. The GAL won't want to make them more stressed out.

It will all work out. Positive thoughts.

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KentuckySm
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#778551 - 02/28/12 08:47 AM

Thanks for the responce you all. Yeah someone told DH that the GAL will talk to the kids and ask who they want to be with and go by that. I told him the kids were too young for that. We will see how it goes. I will keep the board updated. Looks like this will drag out for a bit.

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