c_jane
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Reged: 04/06/07
Posts: 1753
Loc: In the Great State of Texas
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DS is in Jr. ROTC and LOVING it. May make the Army his career.
This is my Spring Break to have him. SB starts Friday.
Today DS asks me if he can go to Boot Camp. Only 15 out of 60 cadets were picked to go. He will miss 2 days of school (Thursday-Friday) and come back Sunday. It costs $50.
I said sure DS could go, no problem. Dad said HE wasn't paying -- it was MY weekend so *I* could pay if I wanted him to go. This is what he told DS when DS asked him for the $50.
I also had to pay $45 recently for a math test that DS's teacher wants him to take. FOTY said it 'wasn't necessary' & he 'didn't have the money.'
Yeah DAD doesn't have the $$ cuz he's always broke, can't make ends meet EVEN with my CS and working OT. Ugh. Just Ugh!
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John Constantine: God's a kid with an ant farm.... He's not planning anything.
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annieo
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Reged: 07/07/10
Posts: 1410
Loc: Pacific Northwest
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If ds is going on your weekend you should pay it - if you really want him to go just take care of it not to mention you told ds he could go knowing it cost the 50 - you would be beyond pi$$ed if your ex did that to you - tell ds he could do something and then expect you to pay for it - you should have cleared the cost with the ex BEFORE you told your ds if you are not willing to pay the cost.
You already know that your ex's view on education and yours are two different things - stop expecting anything different.
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MrsB
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Reged: 07/03/10
Posts: 6355
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Gotta agree with Annie here...I know your X isn't always the best to deal with - however this isn't a mandatory event and it does fall on your time.
Just pay the $50 and let your son enjoy himself and leave dad out of it.
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Tweeby
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Reged: 06/05/04
Posts: 7100
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Not sure why you consider your ex a d-bag for these reasons.
Not sure why you would have to pay for a special math test, I wouldn't be paying it for my kids either. The only test I have had to pay for was ACT. My YSS took microsoft certs in HS and those were paid for by the school or was apart of the fees for the program he was in, nothing separate and not all of the kids in the program took the certs.
Your ex has different priorities than you do. Doesn't make him horrible just different.
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c_jane
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 04/06/07
Posts: 1753
Loc: In the Great State of Texas
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Because I pay what I consider MORE than enough CS for him to be able to afford ALL DS's educational costs -- extracurricular or not.
Because they're so broke DS doesn't want to ask FOTY for *anything* knowing he'll get the 'we're just scraping by' lecture.
Because Douch-bag's Fat AZZ wife doesn't work and spends all day long on the computer (per DS) AND all night long.
Because I'm supporting TWO families on my salary PLUS paying for all DS's educational costs.
Because DS is finally seeing the light and has ZERO respect for FOTY. And his DAD has turned DS against him -- nothing I could do could have done it so well.
DS knows whom he can count on and whom he can't.
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John Constantine: God's a kid with an ant farm.... He's not planning anything.
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Debi
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Reged: 06/03/05
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Unfortunately you have zero say in what they do with their money, including CS. As long as your son has the basics at dad's house that's all that has to be provided.
My x and I have 50/50 with no CS changing hands. If I want the kids to have something I know I have to pay for it. If he (or rather his wife) want the kids to have something they try to guilt me into paying half. It is what it is.
As others said you already know his views on education aren't what yours are. That's life so you gotta do what you gotta do.
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When we were together, you said you'd die for me. Now, I think it's time you kept your promise.
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Miranda
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Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 20822
Loc: North of Mexico
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My ex is a douche, does not see my child nor does he pay CS. I cannot focus on his douche-y-ness. I just have to "keep calm and carry on". He is not worth my thought process.
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13.1...because I am only half crazy!
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ssmom79
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Reged: 06/27/07
Posts: 7784
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Very cool he was extended that offer. I'm glad you are making sure he has the opportunity when your ex doesn't want to help pay for it.
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gr8Dad
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Reged: 06/07/04
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To the group:
How many OTHER NCP's on this board do you ALLOW to bytch and complain about paying their support and having the CP providing the basics being not enough? Just curious, is is because she is FEMALE< or because she is a regular? You all would NEVER let a new poster or a GUY get away with this crap.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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ssmom79
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Reged: 06/27/07
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Because I pay what I consider MORE than enough CS for him to be able to afford ALL DS's educational costs -- extracurricular or not.
------------------> Yea, so do we. Doesn't mean he has to pay for them or should pay for them just because you do. If you don't like what you're paying, go back to court. I know the feeling though CJ.
Because they're so broke DS doesn't want to ask FOTY for *anything* knowing he'll get the 'we're just scraping by' lecture.
------------------> BTDT, got a shirt, wrote a book, working on second edition. I'm not scraping by, the kid gets the benefit...sometimes the ex also gets a benefit. But I'm not worried about that anymore.
Because Douch-bag's Fat AZZ wife doesn't work and spends all day long on the computer (per DS) AND all night long.
-------------------> Yea, BM supported a nonworking husband and a nonworking fiance. Guess how she did it? Yup, it was likely the overpaid child support that kept the household running. But hey, the child support ends, yours will too.
Because I'm supporting TWO families on my salary PLUS paying for all DS's educational costs.
---------------------> Yea it sucks huh? But hey, your DS will get a good education.
Because DS is finally seeing the light and has ZERO respect for FOTY. And his DAD has turned DS against him -- nothing I could do could have done it so well.
-------------------> Bet you're loving that.
DS knows whom he can count on and whom he can't.
-------------------> So do my SK's.
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