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Seems like the wedding is off
      #779245 - 03/08/12 05:24 AM

Sd was planning to get married in June, but since she cannot afford the Klienfields dress, they are postponing it. The poor kids are being "forced" to save for the wedding of their dreams..

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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: Sadie]
      #779254 - 03/08/12 08:27 AM

Ha, if I'd waited until I could afford the wedding of my dreams I would not be celebrating my ten year anniversary this year.

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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: ssmom79]
      #779267 - 03/08/12 10:23 AM

I know - we did what we could afford which wasn't much but it was small and intimate and all we needed and no one went into debt or anything like that. My parents paid for the flowers and photographer. Hubby's parents paid for the reception (small at their house - nice house though it was on the beach (Redondo Beach) in Seattle area. Hubby and I contributed about a thousand dollars.

If we had waited we wouldn't be celebrating our 22 anniversary this June. I did wear my mom's dress that she married my father in - she paid 49.95 when she bought it and I paid 49.95 to have it cleaned (still white as white could be) and I had so many compliments wanting to know where I got it - it was timeless and simple and really pretty and it had so much sentiment attached to it - I did not want anything else.

Sadie - you don't want this wedding to happen anyway - are they asking for you all to buy the dress even though they know you are not attending or contributing?


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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: Sadie]
      #779270 - 03/08/12 11:39 AM

The poor kids are being "forced" to save for the wedding of their dreams..

---> Ahhhhhhhhhhh....NOT! Ex and I spent around $500-$600 for our wedding/honeymoon in the early 80s. Our rings (engagement/2 bands) cost $110. My gown...cream crepe de chine shot with gold thread, hand-smocked/embroidered, I made and was pretty 'spendy' at about $50. A good friend who was the local florist did my hairpiece, my bouquet, the maid-of-honor's bouquet, buttonaires (sp) for the groom, best man and father and corsages for the mothers. Ex worked for the local newspaper and his boss paid for our invitations (ex printed them) and postage. $50 for the license, $100 for the wedding chapel (no, not Nevada), $20 for the minister. Maid-of-honor bought her own dress...gorgeous one for $20. The men wore their best suits. My dad paid for the cake, beverages and snacks for the reception; ex's step-father bought the champagne. Some asshat paid for the 'entertainment' when he decided he wanted to jump off the local bridge and no one could leave until he was talked down.

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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: Sadie]
      #779272 - 03/08/12 11:50 AM

Good and in the meantime they will probably see that it's stupid to get married so young. Not that she would ever admit it but it sounds like a flimsy excuse to postpone things to me. More than likely she had a change of heart but this seemed like a good excuse.

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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: annieo]
      #779325 - 03/08/12 08:02 PM

Yes, sd expected that hubby wouold be paying for the dress and half of the reception. This is even after he told her point blank his feelings on the wedding and told her flat out there would be no money from us. Just a quick note, the dress she wants is over $6,000 before any alteration costs.

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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: Sadie]
      #779326 - 03/08/12 08:05 PM

Good, by the time she could save up for it the relationship will likely be long over. 18 is so young.

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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: Debbie_L]
      #779338 - 03/08/12 09:41 PM

Working only part time and saving for a wedding...she'll be drawing social security before she can afford her wedding.

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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: ssmom79]
      #779347 - 03/09/12 12:09 AM

I cannot fathom wearing a dress that costs six grand - there is so much one could do with that amount of money - my entire wedding did not cost half that.

She is 18 and expecting a six thousand dollar dress - I guess I just do not understand that kind of thinking and her bm thinks it is ok - really....


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Re: Seems like the wedding is off [Re: annieo]
      #779352 - 03/09/12 05:20 AM

I agree with you. My dress was no where near that. For a well educated woman, her bm is stupid. In her mind, sd will be the first one since bms great grandma to get married, and that means sd should have an unlimited budget ( mostly at dhs cost).

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