Maury
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.startribune.com/local/north/150709235.html
Mom punished the 12 year old child by shaving her head and putting her outside in a diaper for all to see.
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Gecko
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Unhappy with her daughter's schoolwork......
---> And I thought being grounded for 27 weeks in a row was bad.
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elliesmom
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Wow. Those are some seriously shitty parents. I am pleased that its a crime and those kids are out of there for now.
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LexieBelle
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While I don't agree with the punishment, I do agree with the parents following through with the threatened punishment. The girl WAS warned. She apparently had a problem with doing her homework and was getting "F"'s. Guess if you don't want to be humiliated? DO YOUR HOMEWORK and DON'T FAIL!
None of the children have been physically abused. Honestly? She was embarassed. Okay. Is that such a horrible thing? Don't want to be embarassed? Do what you're SUPPOSED TO DO.
Totally different day and age today. Back in the day, your parents could wash your mouth out with soap til you threw up, nobody blinked an eye. Now, god forbid you breathe on your kid the wrong way, you've got 15 government agencies up your ass.
While I do NOT agree with the exact punishment, in THEORY, the parents here are correct. Child was warned, she KNEW the consequences. She's 12, she SHOULD know better. And again, I don't agree with the exact punishment, I absolutely 10000% agree with the principle. And no, I don't necessarily think "embarassing" a child is "bad" per se. Part of the problem with the newer generations of kids, they're not embarassed ENOUGH. Look how they talk on facebook, twitter, etc. Sexting, sending nudies in text, etc. These children haven't learned TO be embarassed. And they SHOULD.
And yup, I'm a WICKED hard-ass, hard-core parent. Absolutely.
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ssmom79
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No problem with the principle, just the execution of the principle. I have no problem doing what it takes to get my kids to stay in line, and thankfully I don't have to 'do' a lot. Shaving head, nah not my style. Follow-through, definitely my style.
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LexieBelle
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Same.. I definitely don't agree with the actual punishment.. however, I'm not opposed to an "embarassing" punishment at all.
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annieo
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I agree with the follow through but the type of punishment these people used was not just embarrassing but humiliating there is a difference not to mention shaving her head will last months - I REALLY have a problem with that punishment. I also wonder just how many times she was warned because if they warned her and warned her and rarely followed through and then they go to extremes is not only confusing but in a sense it is unfair to the child. Children need consistency.
Will this damage the child for life - hard to say depends on the personality of the child and the relationship she has with her mother. If she was subjected to repeated humiliation (not embarrassment) she will most likely have issues with self-worth and self-control.
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LexieBelle
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Hmm.. she obviously ALREADY has issues with self-control since she's not finishing her homework and getting failing grades.
Failing out of school? Will ALSO affect her for life. I do see the logic of the punishment. Want to do things that affect you negatively for an extended period of time? Alright, here you go. Think it's "humiliating" to have a shaved head? Imagine how humiliating it'll be to be sleeping on a sidewalk because you've failed out of school and no one will give a job.
Again, I personally don't agree with the actual punishment BUT, I definitely see the logic to it. And you're right, it depends on the child. Mine? Does REALLY well with very black and white, very blunt/to the point, and yes, sometimes HARSH feedback. Warm and fuzzy, oh there there dear crap? Doesn't work for her. She just takes that sort of stuff, figures out how to twist it to her advantage and that's not the goal ;) So yeah, I'm pretty blunt/brutal. And yeah, if it took embarassing or "humiliating" her? I guess that's what it would take. I'm sure I've embarassed her on more than one occasion. But I guarantee you? Whatever it was? Never happened again :)
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SRS
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Wonder why the parent didn't make the child sit at the dining room table each night to do her homework while they make supper. Then, go over the homework with the child to make sure it was done and done correctly.
oh yeah - that would require PARENTING. Easier to be cruel than to parent it would seem.
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akrkck
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I totally agree with Lexie. Children have to be taught there are consequences for their actions or inactions. If you read the article, she was warned several times. It says she was made to wear the diaper and clean up a park for the same thing prior to this incident.
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