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Melody
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Then perhaps you need to educate the kids

03/10/05 02:22 PM

It is high time to make them understand at a level appropriate to their age, that mommy and daddy are no longer married. The fact that the divorce is not yet final does not make any difference to a 5 year old. You're no longer living as husband and wife....and unless you believe that you will be reconciling and this is just a temporary situation (which it doesn't sound like)...your children need to be brought up to speed. Rather than explain the legal wheelings and dealings...explain that mommy and daddy will no longer be married to each other and may eventually marry other people. Daddy has met someone that he likes very much and it's possible that in the future Daddy will marry either this person or another person someday.

I caution you to do whatever is necessary to stop the deterioration of the relationship between the child and the father....because YOU as custodial parent have a responsibility to support and encourage this relationship. If a court finds that you are NOT doing this....or that you (by your actions, opinions, words, implications, etc) are contributing to the decline of the relationship...you could find yourself losing custody of your child. It's a dangerous game...and while you are likely angry and hurting...don't let yourself get caught up in this. Be the bigger person...it's not worth losing your kids over it.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
The girlfriend has moved in- DV not final	Mia	03/04/05 02:17 PM
Why does this matter?	Melody	03/05/05 12:34 AM
Re: It does matter!	Mia	03/09/05 04:07 PM
Moral issues are not enforced by law....	Melody	03/09/05 07:40 PM
Re: Moral issues are not enforced by law....	aussie928	03/10/05 11:41 AM
Re: Just trying to move on	Mia	03/10/05 02:49 PM
Re: Just trying to move on	aussie928	03/10/05 03:04 PM
Re: Just trying to move on	Mia	03/10/05 03:55 PM
Think about the kids	Mia	03/10/05 11:26 AM
Then perhaps you need to educate the kids	Melody	03/10/05 02:22 PM
Re: Then perhaps you need to educate the kids	sugar	03/17/05 08:52 PM
Sorry about your situation, sugar	Melody	03/17/05 09:34 PM
Re: Sorry about your situation, sugar	sugar	03/18/05 09:07 AM
Re: Then perhaps you need to educate the kids	sugarb	03/10/05 02:45 PM
Re: Educating is not the problem	Mia	03/10/05 02:43 PM
No condemnation was given....only encouragement	Melody	03/10/05 05:30 PM
Re: No condemnation was given....REALLY?	Mia	03/11/05 01:36 PM
Oh Cut the drama, Mia	Melody	03/11/05 02:15 PM
Re: Educating is not the problem	aussie928	03/10/05 02:59 PM
Re: It does matter!	aussie928	03/09/05 05:48 PM

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