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GoingNzane
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postponed leaving

03/13/05 09:19 AM

Hello again everyone,I appreciate all the advice I've received here.I postponed leaving and started counseling.My wife and I were going together but the counselor decided we needed seperate sessions for now.My counselor is driving me nuts.I thought I had guilt when I got there,now it's ten times worse.I'm trying to make it work at home but nothing is changing,or should I say I'm not changing.I've tried to make it work many times without counseling and failed.I drifted away from my wife over the years,not anyones fault it just happened.There is another woman involved,we were very good friends,shared many similiar interest.At some point it changed,I'm not even sure how it happened.I fought it for a while.We're very much in love and have been for about a year.I've broken it off several times over the past year to try and make it work at home for my kids and my wife.I love my wife just not the way a husband should.She has done nothing wrong and she is a good mother.Hence I'm eaten alive with guilt when I think of leaving.I brought this on myself and my family and I accept that.My counselor has had me end all contact with the other woman to see how it affects me.I have and I'm really trying but my heart just isn't in it.All I feel for my wife is friendly love and obligation.I'm just not happy.My counselor said chances are my kids will hate the other woman and bunch of other stuff.Wow,I said it's not like I'd tell them all the details and we wouldn't be moving in with each other right away or anything.Anyone have a similiar situation?I love my kids and I don't want to hurt them,I don't want to hurt my wife either but I'm living a big lie.I'm sick as a dog from worrying about the woman I want to be with,I'm having mood swings,my kids wonder why I look so bad.It's awful but I'm really trying.

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postponed leaving	GoingNzane	03/13/05 09:19 AM
Re: postponed leaving	free2bme	03/19/05 11:45 PM
Hurray for you for putting forth the effort.	sugarb	03/13/05 01:49 PM

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