Well Rebecca, I'm very glad that your husband sounds like a good man. You see, you and your husband share the workload, we didn't even when we were together. I did the repairs to the home, mind you they weren't done the best because I really didn't know what I was doing but at least I tried. He never did any of it, well I'm lying, he did in the beginnig but it didn't last long. As far as the "sex" thing goes, well I stood up for myself tonight. He came up and was hinting around to it. I flatly told him NO WAY. That I was tired of getting used. For me there is emotions involved and for him there isn't. I'm not setting myself up for that again. He has mentally abused me for years. I broke my arm in three places one time and had a full cast on for three months. The cast went from my shoulder to my hand, obviously I couldnt' do housework as well as I could have before, well he called me a "f'ing lazy [b**tch]". He shattered his heel. I took care of him, which included bed baths, etc...Then this past July my brother died tragically, he was only 36. The day after I buried him I was a blubbering mess, he told me I needed to get over it! I have supported him in business deals that didn't work out, we lost a ton of money out of our savings on that, BUT I supported him. He has never supported me emotionally through school, my broken arm, or the loss of my beloved brother. Yes, he is supporting me financially. I guess I should say, it's not me he's supporting, but he's supporting the kids' expenses. It takes money to run them to games and practices, it takes money to feed them and get them the things they need. Believe me, I would rather live without his money, and once I get my degree I won't have to depend on him anymore. We had another discussion tonight about him giving me money to live on and to take care of the kids with. He doesnt' seemed fazed by it, but to me it's a big deal. I realize that there is two sides to every story. I never,ever claimed to be perfect. Actually I'm far from it. As I said in one of my previous posts, "it takes two to make a marriage and two to demolish it". I did my fair share of mistakes, but I feel the difference between him and I are that I own up to my mistakes, admit that I've done wrong, confessed it and have never tried denying it. He doens't seem to want to do the same, which is his perogative. If I know him, reality will slap him in the face once me and the kids move out. Know the old saying, "don't know what you've got till it's gone" well that will be him. I've tried to make him see this, and I've told him that once the boys and I have moved out, there's no turning back. As stupid as it sounds, I DO LOVE HIM. I either love him or he's a habit that's hard to break. Things were so good in the beginning, he was what I had always dreamed of, just a "good man". I just feel that alot of outside experiences (his friends) play a huge role in this. He had the nerve to tell me that he hasn't raced in a while because of me. He races dirtbikes, anyways I told him that he didnt' race like he used to because we have a family now and priorities change when there is children involved. I mean does he expect to still do the same things he did when he was single with no kids?
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