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xyz1
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Re: not sure what to say

05/12/06 09:40 AM

What I told my oldest son when he was younger and going through the same thing is this:

"Some times even us adults need to have some time to get our lives in order...and figure out what we are doing with our lives...that might be what you dad is trying to do right now. I am not sure how long it will take but you can be sure of one thing...he loves you very much and I am sure you are in his heart and mind all the time. And your dad knows that you are being well taken care of by me and XXXXX, so he knows your safe and sound."

It helped my son deal with it all...his dad didn't see him from birth until around 8 yrs old...he did pay his child support weekly and I could not understand why he didn't want to see the child he was paying for but hey everyone is different. When he got married to his wife he started seeing my son but only everyother weekend for one day about 3 or 4 hours...it wasn't much but my son was happy with it. He hasn't seen him in three years since we moved 700 miles away (he didn't care that we moved) but he does call once sometimes twice a month. I have offered to fly him up there to visit (my son is 16 and attends school full time and works part time...very grown up for his age) but his dad has never let him stay over night...so who knows.

That is just how I handled it...you could change it around a little to fit the age and all but at least the child walks away from the talk feeling like they are special and not like they are unloved.

Good luck

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
not sure what to say	Kimberlydawn79	05/11/06 09:09 AM
Re: not sure what to say	Gecko	06/11/06 11:40 AM
Re: not sure what to say	mojo	06/11/06 06:24 AM
Re: not sure what to say	xyz1	05/12/06 09:40 AM
Re: not sure what to say	Muad_Dib	06/26/06 09:42 AM
Re: not sure what to say	das555	07/17/06 10:50 AM
Re: not sure what to say	Rozy1	10/14/06 10:18 PM
Re: not sure what to say	Kimberlydawn79	05/12/06 09:52 AM

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