I have to beg you again for your opinion. I have written to in the forum many times before regarding my custody issues. I am happy to report that I have full/primary custody, with my ex-husband having visitation. He still never call the children, he has even refused his every other mid week visits, but he maintains his EOW; pays his child support on time, etc. Well, yesterday:
About a week or so ago, my ex mother in law saw the kids and myself shopping in the store. She stopped the basket, and spoke to only one child; the youngest. I let her speak twice to the child, and I began to carry on with grocery shopping. She then called out in the middle of the store and said 'I am his grandmother' and began to make it a great issue. I told her to carry on, she spoke, and she needed to 'shut up.' Of course, she told my ex husband, and of course, modified the complete truth. So, today, his weekend with the kids...he stopped the oldest from getting in the car; and began to question her on what happened in the store. She told him that he needed to speak with 'mom' about what happened. He told her 'you never want to come over here anyway, now you dont have to any more.' I was watching from the door, and all I could see was her having a sad, terrible face. I asked if everything was alright? She did not respond...she attempted to get into the car, opened the door...he put the car in gear, in the middle of a busy street, with her hanging on to the door, and he drove off. Leaving her in the street, rear door partially closed, and the youngest of the two children in the back seat, un-strapped. I yelled at his car to 'stop!' but he kept going...my oldest daughter, scarred...hurt and crying wondering what is going to happen to her little brother.
I called my atty, he said that we will immediately file 'child endangerment' after I told him what happended. I called that sheriff office, they stated that there was nothing they can do because an officer did not witness the event.
So, what can I do? I am so tired, and worried for my children...help...
For Clarity of the above:
Well, the first: "she needed to go on, 'shut up.' We were in the grocery isle, and she kept talking to the youngest child, and he was not responding to her. So, I went on with my basket. She seemed offended that I went on, she began yelling at me in the store; 'I am his grandmother, blah, blah.' Notice, she did not mention the oldest.
My daughted stated that he was asking her what happened in the store with his mother and myself, she told him that he needed to speak with 'mom' about it. He then told her, 'well, you never liked it over there (he stays with his mom) and said that she did not have to go over there anymore!'
The reasons that she feels uncomfortable with her dad is that he is not her biological father. He adopted her. She is from a previous relationship. He has even told her that he was taking care of some 'bum's kid. So, she is not happy...but she loves her brother, and loves to be with him. So this broke her heart when he drove off with her trying to get into the car, and her little brother looking on. He is mad at her because she did not say hello to his mother in the store. What he does not realize, his mother did not acknowledge her in the store.
So, today, I had to console my daughter and attempted to ensure her that her brother is ok, and he will be home tomorrow.
I asked my atty if I can pursue child endangerment charges; or visitation abuse charges...but I will not know the total answer till Monday. I am so worried. My son began telling my oldest (10; he is 6), that his daddy is not 'her' daddy. That his dad is his 'best buddy', and not her. She cries over this. Then, for this weekend visit...he barred her from getting in the car, and drove off with her heart.
I do not know what to do...any valued suggestions on what to say to my attorney? I was advised to proscute this incident as child endangerment.