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Renee
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Re: 20 Year old son problem

07/07/06 10:37 AM

Nancy, I know its easier said than done, but you need to close your wallet. If you've taken care of him and bailed him out of situations in the past it will be hard for you to do this, and even harder for him to accept it. Perhaps a sit down with him and say

"Son, I know you pride yourself on your independence and are a grown man now, so I think its time that I stop trying to mother you! Now that you're an adult I know you're going to do wonderful things with your life. To get out of your way so you can do that, I'm going to stop trying to take care of your business for you. You're smart and more than capable of taking care of yourself and I know you'll be just fine."

Then I would call the credit card company & lower the limit to say $50 and leave explicit instructions with the company that only you are allowed to raise the limit when you provide a passw0rd. Thats just enough to give him emergency gas money or some hotdogs and milk for the fridge.

Talking to him like I suggested may seem like you're being too soft, but think about from his point of view. Whats he going to say to that? "Yes mom I know I'm grown and don't want to be bossed around or live at home, but you still need to take care of me like I was a little kid". Play to his overblown 20yr old ego. Plus it will hopefully get across the point that the gravy train has ended without you coming out and saying "Quit being a narcissistic deadbeat and grow up!"

Good Luck!

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
20 Year old son problem	NancyD	07/04/06 09:05 PM
Re: 20 Year old son problem	Maury	07/10/06 04:41 PM
Re: 20 Year old son problem	Renee	07/07/06 10:37 AM
Re: 20 Year old son problem	NancyD	07/07/06 07:07 PM
Re: 20 Year old son problem	matart1	07/09/06 11:52 AM
Re: 20 Year old son problem	Renee	07/08/06 10:54 AM
Re: 20 Year old son problem	ZeeBabester	07/06/06 05:58 PM
Re: 20 Year old son problem	F25Divorced	07/05/06 11:35 AM

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