Husband wants a divorce after 19 years of marriage; we have four children 18, 16, 13, and 6 year olds. We live in SC. He works full-time and I am a SAHM, I do not want a divorce, but he wants one. Can he get a divorce with out cause? He is trying his best to find something on me, like accusing me of talking to someone on the phone while he is in the house, I have not been seeing any man and yet he accuses me of such thing. Can he use this to get a divorce? I think SC no fault law, is that we have to be separated for one year. On the other hand I can file, because he have cheated twice within our marriage but I do not want to.
I have been handling the finance, paying the bills and buying groceries, and letting him know it is okay for him to get gas for his car, to stay in our budget and not have the bank account overdrawn. Now he is threatening me that he will take over the finance and when ever the kids need something just contact him, well I am scared to death that he will not pay the bills properly, like in the past, I had to catch everything up, and if I need to get money from him he will have a negative attitude. He is playing on my emotions and is leaving me depressed. I need to be strong for my kids and to be able to go out and get a job, and keep it, without his negativity all the time, when he talks to me on the phone or comes by to see the kids. Any advice! He knows that this is hurting me and affecting me, but he has always use this strategy on my especially when I found out he was cheating, he blamed me for everything. Is there a website or helpful book that can help me gain confidence in myself again after 19 years of this abuse?
He says that he is moving on with his life, we were only separated two weeks now, and he says for me to go on with mine. It seems to me he already was involved with someone. Can he see someone else being that we are separated and it not count against him, when the Divorce starts?
Okay I have all the accounts for the bills; he says he needs a copy of them to give to his lawyer. Should I give them to him, is that my responsibility? I am very angry right now, I have put up with his mind games, and he has left me with no self-esteem. I am so afraid that I can not take care of my three children (younger age) with no income. I am trying to find a job now, which he knows this. He had agreed to let me get a job first, and then cut me off with the finance, now he has changed his mind. What does the law say about this? What steps should I take?