elliesmom
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Re: He was...
10/02/06 06:49 PM
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Um..can I say neither?
I have been to both of their rallies (a pro-life rally as well as a NARAL one back when I was trying to find myself in HS) and they are BOTH the scariest motherf---ers I have ever met.
I suppose you could say pro-choice, because I am not entirely convinced that outlawing the procedure would do any good.
But, it scares the heck out of me that a surgical procedure performed in essentially a doctor's office with no health/safety inspections by an outside regulatory agency or mandatory reporting of mishaps is considered "safe." Especially when you consider that any OB/GYN that is competent can make an excellent living without performing this procedure. What doctors are left performing this procedure? The crappy ones and the ones so passionate that they put their own lives in jeopardy as well as their families? I don't like those odds.
Considering that, it also scares the hell out of me that my teenage daughter without my knowledge or consent could go get one. Or lie and say I beat her so she doesn't have to tell me. Being hormonal and pregnant at any age can cause some irrational decisions, but at 15? I don't think my child should be at risk just because a FEW children have uber-shytty parents.
I firmly support REAL counseling for people beforehand. Not scary aborted fetus pictures or anything, but information. Like abortions don't save relationships. If he says he'll leave you if you don't have one - he's already gone. He has to pay CS no matter what he says, and here is how to get it. Abortions don't make it "like it never happened," its not a magic erasure. It makes so when you got pregnant you didn't have a child. That's it. You still have to make your peace with this pregnancy. Here is a list of non-profits/agencies willing to help you if you want to have this child, but feel you can't. A list of adoption options and explaining them carefully - it's not a "leave your baby at the hospital and never see them again" kind of thing unless YOU want it to be. And yes, a 24 hour wait after counseling to think things over.
I also think there needs to be better accomodations for single mothers at a college and university level. Like dormitories for single parents, kid meal plans, and daycare tailored to the needs of college students. And you should be able to cover these expenses with student loans.
Bottom line I had 3 friends get pregnant in college and each made a different choice. Only one of them is regret-free about her decision. She is the proud parent of a 7 year old. The friend who put her baby up for adoption had a hard time at first (exascerbated by the death of the baby's father 2 years later), but I don't think she REGRETS what she did. It just hurts.
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