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gari1
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Re: Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?

06/10/05 12:59 PM

Hi Bacall,

You need to stop beating yourself up. And for heavens sake, quit believing that your X is going to do the responsible thing. It ain't gonna happen.

I was whining about my X not being responsible once when a friend stopped and said to me "why in the world would you expect him to be responsible for anything. He NEVER has been responsible." That comment stopped me dead in my tracks and really made me think. I pulled myself up by my bootstraps, came up with a plan of action and stuck to it, made sure everything was in place legally to *help* him be responsible, held my head high and moved forward....one baby step at a time. I learned to ask for help (very hard for me to do)when I needed it. I also learned not to put myself in a position where the X could project HIS inadequacies on to me which always put me in a funk. You need to do the same.

You CAN do this Bacall. He is not worth all the angst you are putting yourself through. Head up now. Eyes forward. No more contact with the X. Made that appointment with the financial counselor yet?

Hugs,

Gari

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?	bacall	06/10/05 07:59 AM
Job-One	passem	06/14/05 02:34 PM
Re: Job-One	Karen1	06/14/05 03:51 PM
Re: Job-One	passem	06/14/05 06:45 PM
Re: Job-One	gari1	06/15/05 10:22 AM
Re: Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?	mlh53	06/12/05 10:20 AM
Re: Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?	Annie7676	06/12/05 07:21 AM
Re: Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?	gari1	06/10/05 12:59 PM
Re: Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?	LisaMrie	06/10/05 09:23 PM
Re: Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?	ginni	06/10/05 12:27 PM
Re: Inertia and when does it end -- or does it?	NancyD	06/10/05 11:35 AM

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