First, would you? Second, when and how? Here is the situation... I have already had a brain tumor removed when my daughter was 3 years old. I think she saw me, what I looked like, and how much I depended on her father to take care of me after surgery, and that somehow made her feel I was weak. I now realise that part of the reason she is soo close to her dad, this is how councelor explained it to me, is that she saw her mom as not healthy and may not survive as long as daddy. So she grabbed on tight to him, the stronger suriving parent, the one that will be able to take care of her... survival instincts, at age 3! Well, it's only a posability, but last week I learned I MAY have another tumor ( waiting for authorization for new MRI from insurance company). Daughter is now 10, almost 11, she says she is 10 and a half and 1/4, LOL. She has gone thru a lot in the past year, her dad and I splitting up, him and my best friend moving in together, me meeting someone, puberty starting(yes already), dad and I not allowing her to waer make-up ( big deal to her, and I am soo mad at all other 10 year olds parents who let them), her dad moving his GF out, and being laid-off from his job...Now this. She is very smart and understanding. I guess my question is, when would you tell her, and how do I keep her from pushing me away? Opinions?
Never take away someones hope... it may be all they have left.